Post # 1
hi bees! so i am trying to figure out how to incorporate my fiance’s sister into the wedding day…i did not select her as a bridesmaid-i have one sister who is my maid of honor and a very close knit group of girlfriends who are like sisters to me, and i was already pushing the number of attendants…my fiance is not overly close with his sister and said not to pick her in the first place…however, since we have gotten engaged, i feel like i have gotten a little closer with her because she is excited for her brother and i…she is of course invited to all the girly stuff and fun activites, and i was planning on giving her a corsage and a gift the day before the wedding, same as our parents and attendants, is this good do you think? we are not having a church wedding so we dont have any readings prepared that she could say, so i am not sure what else we could do. thanks!!!
Post # 3
You could have her do a reading or a toast at the reception. A prayer before the meal? Has she made any indication she would want to be anything other then the grooms sis for the wedding?
When SO finally asks, I’m not asking his sister to do anything. But that is partially because she rubs me the wrong way. We get along, but are best buds.
Post # 4
Maybe have her be in charthings gifts after the wedding? Or the guest book/programs? Or if you’re having a ring warming ceremony (they’re pretty cool if you haven’t heard of them) have her be in change of that? And a corsage and little gift are great ideas too:)
Post # 5
i thought about a toast, maybe at the rehearsal dinner or the reception not sure…she has not indicated she wants to do anything necessarily (nor has she said anything about not being asked to be a bridesmaid) my fiance is not particularly tight with her or care for the way she is all the time, but i feel like she should be included somehow, i’m not sure a polite way to ask her if she wants to do something or not…i could have her hand out programs or something too as a small way to be included…thanks for the great ideas girls!!!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MrsElliott: I think what you’re doing is good. I just added my Future Sister-In-Law to the list of people that get corsages/bouts, she’s not in our bridal party.
Post # 7
reader, personal attendent, guest book attendent, help with the cake, be in charge of the gifts… there’s lots of roles to fill.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t give her any responsibility (program handing out, etc.) if she hasn’t asked for it. I think that people who would really get something out of helping are the type who will ask if you need help with anything. My best guess would be she isn’t interested if she hasn’t offered! However, because she is family, she might appreciate being made to feel special, and a corsage would be a lovely way to do that. She might like being recognized as not simply another guest, while having the freedom to socialize and enjoy the wedding (best of both worlds, especially if you are talking about a younger sister).
Post # 9
I agree with brittarlene. I’ve never understood how being asked to work at a wedding, which means you don’t get to enjoy the wedding, is an honor. Having her do a reading or a toast or something else where she’s acknowledged as more than a guest is an honor to me.
If she hasn’t asked, I would just give her the flowers and allow her to enjoy the day.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Maybe she can read a passage or poem that you select. That’s what I did at a friend’s wedding at the request of the groom