- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Remember this little gem?
Well it was, to my knowledge, partially successful. One of the three sisters succeeded. The youngest one, whom I am closest to. And let me lead this off by saying a few things, because last time I got a little bit flamed.
I am SO HAPPY for my cousin, and I can’t wait to meet the little munchkin. This post will not be talking about how happy I am, it will be talking about my concerns regarding my wedding. That doesn’t mean I am not happy.
I am NOT kicking her out of the bridal party.
I am not angry that she, or either of her sisters, is expanding her family.
My cousin announced she is pregnant over the holiday weekend. She told me that she’ll be about 7 months pregnant at my wedding, and I reassured her that we’d make it work. It has been a known fact for a while that we could run into this, and David’s Bridal does not sell maternity bridesmaids dresses. The reason that some look like they could work, but do not, is the lining. None of their dresses have flowy, forgiving lining that would make room for a pregnant belly. We would have to order a huge dress and have it altered down, which would be $200-$250, plus the cost of the dress.
The color I want is very unique. I wanted a tannish, neutral color, but that would still look good next to gray suits. It was so hard to find. There were tears and lots of stress and a lot of people telling me I was being bridezilla, being silly, looking for a color that didn’t exist, and I should just chill out and settle for this color, or this color, or this color. Finally, David’s Bridal had the perfect color, Biscotti. It was tan without gold undertones, so it would not clash with the gray suits. It was at a store that would make it easy for my spread-out bridal party to get their dresses. We got matching vests at Men’s Wearhouse and have already put down a small deposit on the rentals. I say all of this to illustrate my absolute refusal to change the color, despite no dresses having been purchased yet.
My mom has not liked the color to begin with. She told me today that I should revisit the color and just go with something easier, like lavender. Except I don’t want lavender. She told me it’s unfair to make my cousin pay so much for alterations because I want a very specific color. And she told me that my cousin will be uncomfortable and unhappy and may back out of the bridal party. I said that I would miss her, but that’s her choice, and I will not be changing the color.
I don’t think I’m being unreasonable. It took me a lot to find a color for the dresses that I liked, and I don’t want to sacrifice my vision. I don’t know how to talk to my cousin about this without sounding like I don’t care about her comfort.
If you were my bridesmaid, what would you want me to say? How could I get my (very pushy) family to stop telling me I need to change the color/store, and that I am unreasonable/bridezilla?