- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
My sister and I have not been close this last year or so. As kids we did everything together. As we grew up we grew apart. she can be quite difficult at times and has problems with everything having to be about her. I guess I’ve always found it easier to give into her and go her way with things. Also if she ever needs anything she knows to ask me and I always give it to her. She is my sister and I love her I will always give her something if she needs it. Well this last part might change from now on.
A few months ago my Great Aunty died. My mum was over seas and couldn’t get home for the funeral. The aunts son mad the funeral 2 days after she died. There was massive family issues to do with my Aunty wanting one thing for her after death wishes and her son doing the opposite. It was up to my sister and I to deal with the issues as my mum couldn’t get in contact with the reset of the family. My sister also couldn’t help me because she said it’s too much for her to deal with. So it was up to me to try and stand up for my dead aunty’s wishes. I tell you all this part so you know the sort of extra stress that this funeral had.
my my sister lives in another state. In Australa living in another states means it’s a long way a way. It takes 8 hours to drive to my sisters house from mine. My sister had been really really sick just before my Aunty died and the last thing I wanted for her was to have to drive all the way down for the funeral. She had to work either day before and after the funeral so she would of had to drive up and down in the night. She said she didn’t have much money to afford for her and her husband to fly down ( it’s a one hour flight, much better for her health) . I said I didn’t want my sister driving for her health so I said I would give her $100 to buy a flight. She said they still can’t afford to fly so I told her I would give her $200. She said thank you and I gave her the money. They got flights down.
I told my sister that I would pick her up and drop her off the airport if I couldnt get my dad to do it. The airport is 1.5 hrs away from my house. My sister says ok. Lots of conversations between dad, my sister and I turns out dad can pick her up but not drop her off. So I drop her off.
Tonight i I get a call from my sister she is upset about us being distant and not talking as much as we once did and she tells me the fact that I didn’t pick her up from the airport and tried to get dad to drop her off really hurt her. She thinks it don’t care about her and I’m bad. I told her the fact she couldn’t see everything I did do for her really hurts and she says I have to get over it. I should have picked her up and dropped her off with no issues.
Am I wrong in being hurt? Do yuu guys think she is right in being hurt that I didn’t do enough for her? I know sometimes it’s hard to see things from some one else’s point of view but I really can’t see her point.