(Closed) Sister problems anyone?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Sometimes weddings bring out the worst in people. Was it about planning the wedding? Maybe she just needs some space and you could sit down and talk about it calmly in a week or two?

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Can you tell us what actually happened with your sister?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I’m sorry this is happening. 🙁 Hugs!!

i think you’ll just need to give her some time.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Oh no! My sister went a bit weird with me when I got engaged and started planning our wedding, but she is older than me and had just split up with her fiancé of ten years(and also the father of her children)  so I think that us getting married reminded her of what she had lost. You haven’t given us the details so don’t know why you have fallen out but my sister and I are now closer than ever and she’s been great at helping me plan after that initial blip! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Futuremrsdriscoll:  What happened? It sounds like maybe you said something, but it’s hard to tell if she’s being unreasonable or not without knowing what the “petty argument” was about.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

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Futuremrsdriscoll:  I have issues with my sister. We use to be “best friends” but ever since she got this loser boyfriend, no one but him matters. I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor before they were serious and I didn’t think he’d impact her the way he has. She’s a completely different person. We had a blow out this summer where I didn’t talk to her for 2 months. Then she told me her and her BF broke up because he was moving. I was thrilled, I had my sister back. Well…. 3 months later, guess whose coming back? Yep, the awful BF and they’re back together.

At this go-around I’m staying neutral. I hate the kid, probably run him over if I had the opportunity. But I’m trying to keep peace, mainly because of my wedding. It sounds selfish, and it is, but whatever. I know I’d regret not having her in my wedding, and I know if I tell her how I really feel(again) it’ll ruin things.

I’m keeping my distance from him. I’m civil, but he knows I hate him- yet he still tries to kiss my ass which pisses me off even more. My parents hate him, the rest of my extended family hates him, Fiance hates him. Yet… she thinks he’s the greatest guy ever. PUKE.

Anyways, I hope things get better for you. Maybe with some time she’ll come around. With a wedding, she may realize how important family is and try to make things better.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Futuremrsdriscoll:  What actually happened? I think we need more details to actually help you with this issue. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

SO sorry to hear that your sister is being like this.  My only “drama” with my sister, who was my maid of honor, was that she seemed highly unmotiviated to do certain things.  Um, then why be the maid of honor?  Though in general, she threw a good bridal shower (with help, of course), and really tried hard.  It’s just that people around you often think they know how you feel and how you want them to act, and sometimes can’t shut up about things you couldn’t care less about.  And many people often make it all about ceremony and dresses and flowers and whatever – whereas I’d rather have people around who genuinely care for me and just congratulate me.  But all in all, I think my sister did and does care, she was just annoying in that role.  I really, REALLY tried to be nice, and some acknowledgment of that would’ve been nice to hear, but as you will find out, most people only think of themselves and their role, without much considering all that you go through.

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