- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Thats it. I have requested my sister no longer contacts me. After nearly 4 or more posts on here this is the last post I am making for this issue in my life. I cannot believe the things my sister has said in this msg over facebook, but I hope my response was good enough to outline how I feel about this and my decision to stop contact with her.
thank you, what a wonderful gift. I really have no words for what you have said. I dont think you could have misunderstood me anymore than you did.
But just to clarify one small thing: Your recent interest in events at home is refreshing and a long time coming. Imagine, (OP) who studies abroad, (OP) who lives on campus, (OP) who spends almost every weekend at her boyfriends place, has finally taken an interest in things at home. Good for you.
As for how you “think” i handle things with mom/dad/(other sister), that is first off none of your business. Secondly, Ive had my finger on the pulse since 5 years old sister, dont be marching into the game now and telling me how to play.
PS dont forget to tell mom that you “dont want to listen to her drama” I know she didnt appreciate it the last time and i am sure she wont appreciate it the next time too.
You cant pick and choose when you can be there for somebody (OP). At least im consistent and dont tell mom & dad off when im in a pissy mood.
its a joke that you speak to me of morality when one day you empathize with mom and the next day you bark at her because she is inconvenient.
you know its true. And you if you are unsure, ask mom how many times YOU have hurt her. Should i chuck you because of that too? I think we both know that you can shitty to mom & dad at times. Should i stop caring about you and cut you off from my life as you suggest? what do you do with a effed up family member? throw them to the wolves?
I believe I have stated all that needs to be said in my earlier msgs. However allow me to clarify a few things
First off, I find it incredibly hypocritical that you would criticize me for questioning your interactions with our family only to go on a four msg diatribe doing exactly the same. If you recall, the majority of my last two msgs have centered on OUR relationship, not that of our family and yourself. I think this point is pretty obvious so I will not further explain myself.
Secondly I will not be baited into an argument over the differences in our situations with our mother and our interactions with her. You have the luxury of dictating when and where you speak with our parents and how often you do so. I live with our parents, out of my own volition, and therefore it is up to me how I chose to interact with them. Unlike you I can accept my shortcomings such as my temper. However you cannot compare our situations due to the difference in proximity
I love my mother- she knows this much. I also know that I have a history of my own with mum and dad and my own hurts and grievances. Regardless, I chose to live here with them, and I chose to do my best. I also chose to accept my shortcomings and try my best in rectifying them. None of this concerns you however
I also would like to point out again that you have failed in at all illustrating how your own personal situation justifies your mistreatment of me and your stance that such behavior is perfectly fine as long as hardship is your excuse. As you can see, I have no excuses, accept my failings as a human being and try to be better for them. There lies our difference in our morality- because instead of accepting the excuses I could make, I try to surpass them and be a better person for my hardships, not hide behind them.
Its more than obvious to me that you are far more interested in arguing your point than making any progress what so ever towards a mutual resolution of our grievances. Therefore I would request that you resist contacting me again, because I am content with the level of discourse I have issued here, and believe I have made my point clear as to what I find unacceptable about our interactions. Sincerely, (OP)
*Im sorry if this is long* Again at least its the last one
Please refer to previous posts from me about this situation. There have been a few.