(Closed) Sister smacking session, anyone?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

wow. definitely some jealousy issues on her part. i’m very sorry you have to deal with this!

as for the the margaritas, a lot of people do one specialty type drink. we’re doing beer, wine and then apple pie (a spin on moonshine) in mason jars for our “backwoods” type wedding.

i know it’ll be hard, but just breathe. its your day no matter her pity little comments. best wishes!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

^petty^

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

that sucks. My sister was 19 when I got married (at 25) and she was thrilled for me. I can’t wait til she gets married (hopefully many years from now) so I can stand up there and do everything she did for my wedding.

Your sister is jealous, plain and simple. Since you don’t want to say anythign to her (which I know I would, so you are a bigger person than I), when she says these things, just smile, nod and go about your business

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Sorry OP. When she suggests stuff don’t you use the Bee’s typical line of “thanks for the suggestion, but we’re doing our own thing”?….Well typically its more diplomatic than that LOL. I

I just had to hang up the phone on mine. Literrally a few minutes ago. Her isssue isn’t wedding related in anyway. She just thinks she the freaking expect at managing everyone elses life, but her own. I didn’t ask your opinion on my job search so just STFU Thanks. I swear I could start a thread a day on her bullshit thru the years but I just try my best to ignore her. Its. NOT. easy.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@miz fizzix: Tell her to back off. Simple enough. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

yea…all though my sister is super happy for me she is going through so much right now. although im tryin gto be supportive for her…i feel like im not getting anything back….

your sister def sounds like she is jealous. just remeber that it is your day!! not hers…if she wants a wedding she should plan a vow renewal ceromony!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh, and I forgot to say, I LOVE margaritas!!! I think your idea for a bar is great, and cost effective. We did just beer and wine, and no one complained

Post # 13
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

just speak up – next time she says “i dont mean to be bossy” speak up nicely and say sis, i love you but its really not up for discussion

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

@miz fizzix: We are related!!!t Mine is the same way. I always try to tell her “Its not what you say, its how you say it.” But it falls on deaf ears. She wants to tell me what to do, then leave me 50 voicemails reiterating her unsolicited opinion. Nobody works my nerves like she does.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Here is my vent: My sister is one of my Maid/Matron of Honor (I have 2) and she is planning on moving from LA to Houston in October… The problem is, SHE HAS NO JOB, NO MONEY, NOTHING!  We have family that she can live with there but after awhile I know she will get tired on it. On top of that she wants to fly back and forth here for all things wedding (Dress Fittings, Tastings, etc.) and wants to plan a Bridal Shower for me, which is fine but SHE HAS NO JOB, NO MONEY, NOTHING!

When I suggest to her that she should get a job here for 6 months or so (She just finished Nursing school) get some experience under her belt, save up her money (she is living at my grandparents RENT FREE) she is shooting it down and hell bent on moving but SHE HAS NO JOB, NO MONEY, NOTHING!

Now she wants me to be big sister and come to her rescue and I am not going to. I am trying to save for a wedding and she is more concerned about me “gifting” and “Loaning” her money to move???  We went looking at bridesmaids dresses and she said, you can just pay for it and I will get it back to you whenever…..WHAT? And how does she expect to pay to fly back and forth for all this wedding stuff if SHE HAS NO JOB, NO MONEY, NOTHING! My fear is that I am going to end up hosting my own Bridal Shower because she is living on chanpagne dreams and caviar wishes when she has Spam and Kool Aid……

Then today she drops the bomb on me that she has not paid her car note since June and she was advised that her car might be repossed……I dont understand why she would wait that long to say anything to anyone and I am just over it.

BREATHING….

@miz fizzix: I know your pain…. Sorry and hugs to you

 

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