- miz fizzix
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Background: I am the youngest daughter (of two) in my family by about two years. My older sister is already married, and she eloped under some extremely precarious circumstances. Due to the nature of the entire situation, there was never any sort of celebration. However, that all happened about three years ago, and we have all mostly moved on.
Now it is my turn to get married, and I’m really excited about everything. So is my mother, who felt like she missed out on my sister’s wedding. My sister seems a little resentful that I get to have the wedding she never had, and is now being ungodly liberal with her “wedding advice”.
Apparently, eloping makes you an expert on throwing traditional weddings. I now try not to even bring up wedding details around her, because she has an issue with or comment on anything I like/want/say. If wedding stuff does come up, she begins her comments with, “Well, I don’t mean to be bossy, but….” and then tells me what she thinks. (An opinion I never asked for.)
So far, her gems of advice and criticisms include:
-125 people is far too many people for a buffet dinner
-I need to get hair extensions
-I must have professionally done makeup
-The whole world will judge me if I don’t give +1’s to every person over 16
-I’m cheap if I don’t have a full bar (I want to do beer, wine and margaritas!)
-I should just elope because it’s soooo much better.
Sadly, I cannot respond with, “Seriously? You hid your wedding from our entire family, and you think I want your advice? No thanks.” To do so would cause some really hard feelings, and I don’t want to do that. Hence, I vent here.
I think she’s jealous that I’m getting attention over our wedding and that I will be able to have something she never got. I can understand her feelings to a small extent, but I also fully believe that she made her own decisions and needs to live with those.
Anywho, has anybody else dealt with a sister/sibling situation like this? Because I still have almost nine months to go and my patience is already wearing thin. I’m doing what I can to include her without rubbing it in her face, but I’m at a loss right now.