(Closed) Sister trouble! Little long!

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who should be included in the wedding party?
    Sister H only : (0 votes)
    Both sisters : (13 votes)
    41 %
    Neither : (19 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    47 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Your bridesmaids should be those you are closest with and who have always been by your side. Doesn’t sound like either of your sisters really fit the bill. Honestly if no one’s mentioned it at all ( I’m not sure how long you’ve been engaged) then it probably won’t hurt anyone’s feelings. Maybe you can involve them some other way? Greeting guests at the door and handing out programs and bubbles or bird seed? Or even letting them hang out with you the day of as “personal attendants”?  Don’t worry I’m sure you’ll think of something!

    Post # 4
    2716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    For the sake of avoiding family drama, I would include both sisters.  However, I would make the younger one a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man.


    Post # 5
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think excluding your sisters from your wedding party is potentially one of the most hurtful things you could do. Even if you don’t have a great relationship now, you might become closer down the road – but you’ll make that much less likely to ever happen if you don’t include them.

    You could ask them whether they’re interested, and if they say “Nah,” then you’ll know you don’t need to ask them. But I wouldn’t consciously choose to not include them. Your friends may or may not remain friends through the rest of your life, but your sisters will always be your sisters.

    Post # 6
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I say keep it family-free. I don’t understand when people say “oh, you must include them – they’re family!” Maybe I’m heartless >:} 

    If you really feel compelled to include them, do it in a different way. Readings? Flower Girls? There’s got to be a different option.

    Good luck!

    Post # 7
    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you should include both and it might very well bring you closer to eachother, which I think would be a great gesture.

    Post # 8
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think they need to be BM’s necessarily but they do need to have a very special / important role.  Could they do readings, perhaps?  Something upfront/ceremony specific (not guest book type behind the scenes types of things).


    Post # 10
    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Perhaps the older sister could do a reading, and the younger could be in charge of the guestbook. Both are positions that show their importance, and get them in the program, but they’re things that they can do on the day, without a lot of pre-planning or tension.

    Post # 11
    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @bmrhodes:  It’s your wedding, and you should just tell them that you want them to be able to enjoy it. If they are angry just say that you’re not particularly close siblings anyway, there is nothing wrong with the truth. Don’t feel like you have to do whatever your family wants to keep them happy, it’s YOUR wedding. 

    Post # 12
    9 posts
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I vote ask both sisters to be in the wedding with the younger one being a junior bridesmaid. My mom has 3 sisters and when my siblings and I were younger we would look at her wedding pictures and ask why all of her sisters were not in the wedding (she had 2 of the 3 as bridesmaids). She always told us that if she had to do it again she would have just had her sisters. Friends come and go, but family (whether you like them or not) are forever! 

    Post # 14
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that you should consider having them in the wedding as bridesmaids or junior bridesmaids.  In the future, you might develop closer relationships with them and it would be a little sad to know that you didn’t have them in your wedding because at the time you weren’t close.  Plus if they are young (teenagers) they may not see it as being “cool” to want to be in your wedding but they secretly really would love the honor.

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