Post # 1
To go back on the story: when I first got engaged, I was planning on asking my only sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, however, after some talking she said that she didn’t even care than she was in the wedding. We couldn’t get her to come along dress shopping and she didn’t even want to go Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping. Naturally, I asked my best friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Now my sister is very upset because she isn’t Maid/Matron of Honor. My conscience is now hurting because my sister is upset, but I don’t feel like its right to “take it away” from my friend who has helped me over the past year. Part of me feels that my sister just sees it as a better “title” and that’s what she wants. I’m torn on what to do. Part of me feels that I should ask my sister to be my 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor, but then another part of me feels that I need to stick to my previous plan and just let it go (since we’re less than a month until the wedding).
Any ideas on what to do without hurting anyone’s feelings?
Post # 3
I think you need to talk to your sister about this. I see both sides because if you are close to your sister, I would think she should be your Maid/Matron of Honor but you already asked your friend so you shouldn’t take it away from her. Is your sister married? She could be your Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
If she didn’t really express interest in even being in the wedding, she doesn’t get to be upset now that she dosen’t have the highest role.
That said, I had two maids of honor, my sister who is younger and knows nothing about weddings, and my best friend, who will research for hours for me and has an opinion on everything under the sun.
Post # 5
Just explain to her what you expect out of an Maid/Matron of Honor and then explain to her she’s very important to you, you want her to be a part of your wedding and want her to be able to relax and enjoy the wedding instead of running errants. Or something like that.
I think a good long talk with your sister will fix things. And if the title 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor will fix it, than just give her that title.