- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Disclaimer: sorry for any/all errors… angry vents are great at being horribly written.
Soooo… here’s the situation…
At age 18 my sister moved out of the family home because she doesn’t share the same ideals as my parents. (Mainly my dad) My Dad is a hard core Christian and my sister is spiritual, but hates Christianity. Ever since she moved out, she has struggled financially, but desires independence. Because of this desire, she has refused to move back into our parent’s home. So she bounced around; living with friends till she could save up some money (or ‘til they kicked her out), and then living in an apartment until she couldn’t pay rent anymore. Now she has 2 kids (which she home schools), but is recently separated from their father. Currently she is staying in an apartment she no longer can afford.
Since she can’t support herself, but wants to, she is constantly asking to borrow money from everyone. The part that I find completely sickening is that she always uses her kids as leverage. If we don’t give her money then we are forcing her kids to be homeless/live in a homeless shelter. <that’s her favorite line she likes to use. It’s so terribly manipulative. She also won’t let family members see her kids if they don’t give her money. My father and I both have lost our privileges to see the kidos (and her) because we have told her “no.”
So now she is unable to pay her rent again and had her friend email my mother asking my mom to give my sister money. In his words he said that “what she needs is not a place to stay, but some financial help.” My mom disagreed and said in her response, “She is always welcome to stay with us in our home, but I cannot afford to pay her rent for her, nor do I think that is the best option.”
The next day my sister wrote my mom and told her she was cut off from seeing the kids. Obviously my mother is devastated. She has begged my sister for over a year to come visit, or to let my mom visit, but my sister won’t respond unless she needs something from her.
I feel so bad for my mom. My mom has the biggest heart in the world, and really is the sweetest person I know. My sister is an idiot for cutting ties with her and I really want to tell her so! I really badly want to write her a letter calling her out for her manipulative character and her ungrateful lifestyle. All have us have giving her shelter, money, and misc things in the past, but we are cut off from her life if we say “no.”
Total angry vent… but she put herself in the situation she is in. She can’t provide for her kids because of the choices she made, not because we (my family) aren’t helping her. She doesn’t have any rights to my parent’s possessions, but they offer to help, but since it’s not cash, my family is horrible to her. In her words we are the reason why her children are homeless, if we won’t pay her rent.
give me a break! grrrr… so mad.
^clearly i’m not ready to write her an email, since I am very angry and don’t want to say anything I will regret.
Thanks for reading. Good to get that off my chest.