- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
OK Im going anon for this. Please dont think Im a troll, its just I dont want to inadvertantly hurt my sisters feelings on my regular account. Just here for advice!
My sister sent this to me today, and Im unsure what to make of it. I have responded already and I will post that after I get a few perspectives
Im worried my Sister doesnt want to be my Maid/Matron of Honor anymore and this is her nice way of airing that. I have a tendency to expect the worse, so Im hoping Im very wrong in this case. How would you take this letter? Please let me know
Thanks in Advance
A Concerned Bee
Hope all is well and you two are settling into the groove of living together in a new place. Must have everything down to a routine by now and have your bearings about where stuff is in relation to your new place. I remember that being the most difficult thing about a new home, finding out where your closest grocery store etc is. Need good intel for the last minute milk run or midnight snack run 🙂
Anyhoo, I was just waiting for (sis’s baby) to wake for her early morning feed and thought i would message you.
Thanks for sending the link for the dresses. There are so many purples here. Is there one in particular that you had in mind? Also what fabric we choose will change the color slightly. I cant remember what fabric you said that you preferred? These dresses have some cool designs but I think Ill go to my local bridal here and get the dress. I dont mind spending a little extra to get the dress properly fitted etc. Same place i got the dress for (cousin’s) wedding. Were there any other features of the dresses that i should know about ? ie length, embelleshments etc. I know we talked about this, but it was so long ago and with baby brain wiping out my brain cells, ive got a few gaps.
Something else that I just wanted to run by you. I know that you asked me to be your maid of honor, and i am still totally stoked to do this but i have recently been thinking about if its fair to you since Ill (baby) with me. At just over 1 years old she should be fairly good and Ill have our routine down pat, but i just wanted to check with you if you still want me as your maid for a few reasons:
1. If you are ok with baby girl in tow, then I’m ok with it.
2. I realize you have another bridesmaid and want to make sure that you didnt just pick me because of obligation as your sister etc. This would be silly.
3. Maid of Honor is someone close to you, who will stand by you and be with you for the rest of your life. Do you feel this way about me ? I know this is an odd question, but I’ve noticed in the last year that we rarely speak and I barely know what is going on in your life. Dont take this the wrong way, just want to make sure that you want me in this role at your wedding. I love you and will always be there for you at the drop of a hat. I also realize that if you need me to step aside, I can do that too. I just want to do what makes you happy since it will be your special day. I would hate for you to choose me because of obligation over someone that you have a special connection with.
4. I dont know what your expectations for the maid are? I would love to run around fussing a couple weeks before the wedding to help you make sure that all the ducks are in a row. Now, i dont mean that i would review all your decisions and make you change your mind etc. You just tell me what you need me to do and I do it. ie, go find out what time the flowers will get here, or pick up my dress . I spent alot of time with (cousin) when she got married and it was so much fun making sure that her hair was in place, helping her to the bathroom, making sure that she stopped to eat and laugh etc. She didnt ask me, but it was great to see her so happy.
Alternatively, if you just want me to show up looking fabulous. I can do that too. I dont want to be in your way if you dont need me 🙂
Anyhoo, baby is cooing, time for foodies.
Think about it and let me know, or give me a call.