(Closed) Sister wants me to change my wedding date

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: should I change my wedding date even though my sister is not engaged and I am.
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    don’t feel guilty, don’t change your date and let her be jealous. Honestly this is her problem, not yours.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee

    First engaged, first choice.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Don’t feel guilty, don’t change your date. She’s not even engaged and even if she was you still don’t have to. The fact that she denies asking means she knows she was wrong. I’d let this go and move forward with your wedding. 

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    sjreeb :  Am I missing something? Why can’t she have her wedding in Oct 2019 and you have your wedding in Nov 2019? Is she planning on Oct 31 and you’re planning on Nov 1? I don’t see the problem here…

    Stick with the date that works best for you and your fiance. 

    Also, congrats on your recent engagement!  

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    No. You get to pick your date & she gets to pick her date. Who cares if they’re only a month apart?

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Nope. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee

    Don’t change your date. It’s rude of her to even ask.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I’d change PP slightly to “first booked, first choice”. 

    OP, I’d try to not get involved. Find your venue, get your date booked, then if she asks about it just say that’s the date that works best for you two. Then make sure your date is known amongst your family. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee

    If she already had a venue and everything I’d understand.

    But you can’t just assume you’re getting married at a certain date if you aren’t engaged. I agree it’s her problem not yours. And it’s a month apart anyways, not the same day. 

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I agree, don’t change your date. I’m sure its just some anxiety on her part being the “older sister”. If she asks, just tell her “We’ve had our hearts set on this venue, and this is the only time they are open”. If she is worried about them only being a month apart just say “But it will be so much fun planning our weddings together!” It is fully her problem, but I would probably be a little sympathetic to the fact that she probably assumed she would get married first. I am the oldest and both of my younger brothers were engaged and married before me. It doesn’t bother me, but I do have a friend in the same boat as your sister and she was panicking that her little sister was getting married before her. She put a lot of pressure on her SO and it did not go well. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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    sjreeb :  do not pander to her. She’s being ridiculous 

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    Hard no on chaning your date.

    When our propoal was pending and we were thinking about when our wedding could be, evrey time someone got engaged we just blacked out that weekend, the one before, and the one after to allow for some buffer. When he popped the Q we picked from what we felt was available based on other weddings in our circle that were already planned.

    First engaged, first choice of date and venue. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Lol no. First to book gets the date. And it’s a month apart, so what’s the problem? 

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee

    Don’t change your date. But unless her boyfriend is a child molestor or violent criminal, ypu must invite him (or risk your relationship with her forever).

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