Sister wants to wear sari for a bridesmaid dress

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 121
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Supersleuth :  “I think that you and I being in the UK and being in many ways “colour blind”, are sensitive to different things from others on the thread.”

You don’t need to be “colour blind”. We are all different colours, from all over the world, with many different religions, cultures and customs. It makes more sense to be the opposite, to see all different people from all walks of life and to find the diversity beautiful. I think you may have been implying that everyone should be treated the same though, which I agree with.

“You are ahead of most of us in this respect and are to be heartily congratulated.”

Hang on a sec, aren’t you “colour blind”? You really think it’s appropriate to go around congratulating people for being in mixed-race relationships? Do I get that congratulations too? I can pass the message on to my fiancé, but do you want my mum’s, or my dad’s phone number? I’m the product of a mixed-race marriage, and I’m in a mixed-race relationship, and I can tell you that nobody needs your patronising congratulations just because they don’t give a shit what race the person that they fall in love with is. Mixed-race relationships are normal as fuck. The only thing that people who are in them need to be congratulated on is the fact that they stand their ground and ignore any racist and judgemental crap that comes their way because of it.

Post # 122
3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

News to me that people in the UK are “color blind,” while the rest of us, apparently, are racist jerks. 

Post # 123
2960 posts
Sugar bee

BubblesandCupcakes :  

UK culture is different from US culture. 

We have different sensitivities.  

I think we can both agree to support both diversity and humanity

Mixed race relationships aren’t as common here in the UK and there’s a lot of hidden racism.

I was just signalling my heartfelt support to a fellow UK bee.

Post # 124
2960 posts
Sugar bee

cmbr :  The message was a supportive message to another UK bee.  I don’t think that you need to assume I’m making comments about anyone else. I was just nailing my (hopefully) non-racist colours firmly to the mast in the UK context.

The UK has a lot of hidden racism.  I guess you are finding out that America has this too.  

I’ve heard people here (in the UK) say bad things about mixed race couples and have immediately expressed disapproval of what they were saying and approval of the couple concerned.  This actually takes lots of effort especially if you are the only person saying it.

So please be supportive.



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