Sister was rude to mom, should I say something?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Leave it between your mother and your sister.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If it was my brother I’d give him an earful. But you know your family better than any of us.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

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cameobride :  +1

I wouldn’t get involved.  Maybe show some appreciation for your mom on your own behalf to cheer her up, but IMO mom/daughter fights usually stem from deeper issues than what they appear.  I doubt you’ll really be able to contribute something constructive.  Better to not end up in the middle & be left with a sad mom AND a sister who feels kind of betrayed.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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futuremrssousa :  I would leave it between your mother and sister.

I have gotten myself into a pickle many times for budding into my mom and sister’s problems.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Something tells me you’re really only getting one side of the story. As great as I’m sure your mom is, she can still have a bias and might not be telling you everything EXACTLY how it happened. I’d refrain from taking sides here. If you want to cheer your mom up, go ahead and do so but don’t do it by coming out against your sister in defense of your mother. You don’t really know what’s going on. 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Your mum is her mum, not you. Your mum can take care of herself, and only the two of them really know what happened between them. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not your business at all. You may have good intentions but it’s not your place to intervene. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I agree with PP’s, leave it between your mom and your sister. If either wants to vent to you, you can listen but I wouldnt go saying something to your sister. If she chooses to talk to you about it then maybe see why she is feeling like that and if it’s truly unwarranted then remind her of the good things your mom has done. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t hesitate to call her out on it. I don’t tolerate any derogatory talk about my mama (even when it’s true). 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I agree with PP’s-it’s none of your business.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

It’s between them and I would stay out of it. It’s very possible you don’t have the full story. Maybe she’s being a brat or maybe there’s more going on. Just because your relationship with your mom is great doesn’t mean hers is and getting involved in thier relationship is unlikely to be helpful especially if you are coming at it from such a one-sided position.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

All that’s going to happen if you speak to your sister is her getting mad at you. Stay out of it.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Unless your sister is a minor, no I wouldn’t get involved. It’s not really your place to “remind” her of the great life you had or admonish her for being ungrateful. It will only damage your relationship with your sister.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I totally get your impulse, I’m an older sister and occasionally take on a mama role to tell my sibs when they’re being jerks

were you there when it happened? If so take a “that was kinda rude” approach without mentioning your mom. If your mom just told you about it I think just leave it between them.

i have definitely taken both routes in the past with varying degrees of success… you know your mom and sister best!

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