Sister will pay for me/daughter to fly to her wedding but not wife. Advice?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: What is the fair outcome here?
    Sister finds a way to get your wife there likes it or not : (31 votes)
    27 %
    Your sister isn's being unfair to choose her godparents and friends over her sister in law : (82 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 181
    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    juanita.kelly.9 :  as you can probably tell, I didn’t read all 12 pages, only the first few. Ok, if he originally said yes, and the tickets are purchased, then he should go. The problem is that he never should have said yes in the first place. It’s demeaning to his wife. 

    I once had my widowed mom coming to stay with us for Christmas. My in-laws were in town from Australia and staying at MILs parents house. Mother-In-Law invited my hubby to Christmas dinner with his relatives, but not me or my mom (saying with me and my mom there would be too many people). I was not impressed! Either you invite me and my poor mom, or none of us come! Fortunately hubby stood up to his mom and said just that! But I always remember the sting of them inviting him but not my mom and I (we’d been married about 3 years at this point – we weren’t just dating!!) 

    Post # 182
    1604 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Mishy, the bride invited all 3. She is NOT responsible for paying for them.  OP is one of these entitled people who thinks others should pay for him.  How is it deamining to his wife?  She was originally invited.  If he could not afford, like any other thing, he should have said no.  Instead, he was incredibly rude, and said, well can we bring X instead of Y.  They could have all come, but he couldnt/didnt want to pay.  HE was rude.

    Post # 183
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee

    OP never responded.  What a tease.

    Post # 184
    9528 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    SaraJeanQ :  I imagine this was his reaction seeing the majority of replies were not in his favor

    Post # 185
    3169 posts
    Sugar bee

    I suspect she offered to pay specifically for him and his daughter for admin purposes. I would much rather purchase tickets for a bunch of people all at once than give them money to pay themselves or reimburse them. It’s much easier administratively. So I think that’s the reason for specifying – I will buy two tickets for these passengers on X flight (or you tell me the flight) and you purchase the ticket for the third passenger. 

    Post # 187
    34 posts

    Beegritte :  It would also mean that the sister avoids having to pay multiple international money transfer fees (since she would have to send money to aunt/uncle, friend, friend AND brother) which can get very expensive very quickly. There’s usually an expensive flat fee and then a certain percentage of the transaction that gets charged. 

    Post # 188
    2410 posts
    Buzzing bee

    She may have even been planning on redeeming frequent flyer or credit card points for the tickets, and only had enough for the 2.  (Without knowing the airline in question, I don’t know if the daughter would have qualified for a reduced price ticket or not.)


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