- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
I decided to have my best friend as Maid/Matron of Honor because we are so close and my sister is just rude to me a lot of the time. I love her but when I go see her it can be so stressful. She will also look to my Fiance to back her up or she will have a go at me for asking him for help/do things for me and he kinda ignores her to keep the peace (I asked him to not get involved as she will just create so much drama). My sister also tells me that anxiety and depression are made up and that I am weak and all I do is talk about it. Which isn’t true but I am open about when I don’t feel good.
My BFF who is married is so much different. We can spend hours together and it’s so relaxing. She doesn’t make me feel bad or belittle me. we message back and forth most of the time and we support each other. She loves my Fiance and he really enjoys coming to see her. we have so much banter and laughs. My Fiance is quite a quiet guy but he has come out his shell with my BFF. Me and my BFF both have anxiety and depression so we know when we need space/ a good chat.
My sister early on complained about being involved in the wedding chat, whilst saying that she will be incharge and she wants to be the main bridesmaid. I went with my heart and picked my BFF who has been so excited about the wedding and says that if I need to talk about anything she is there.
When I told my sister she ranted about having no power over my wedding and that I am giving away all the power. She says she deserves it and that I am a terrible sister. She then kept saying I don’t want to be be involved in the wedding chat group because it was too much so I removed her. The she exploded again.
She has also asked about the top table and I only have room for one bridesmaid and I would like that to be Maid/Matron of Honor they both have children but this means that each child has a parent with them because my Maid/Matron of Honor daughter will have her SD. I don’t want people having to babysit and I want happy children. All of our parents are divorced and have new SOs so it’s a crowded table. This has just caused so much upset. I’ve had my mum screaming down the phone, my sister constantly arguing, telling me that I am not valuing her importance and that my niece must sit at the top table. During this time so much was booked but they didn’t care. It was all about my sister. She has started to ignore me which could be a blessing.
Then I had a wedding planning day. I invited my mum because we wouldn’t be home until 4 so my sister wouldn’t be home for school run. I get a guilt trip about this. She wants to be involved but she treats me like I am stupid and that she is above me. I am 28 in a job that requires a lot of skill and responsibility, I am the bread winner and have a very good life that I built. I am just so sick of being treated like this so I have put my foot down and told her that the only people with final say and power are me and my Fiance.
I am just waiting for the next drama and I just feel that this will get worse, I got everything booked early so we could relax but I doubt it will be like that.
sorry for the long post. Any input is welcomed.