Post # 32
Agh, that would drive me NUTS! I’d be uber pissed too. But I’m sure you’ll look back on this in a month when you are happily married and it won’t be a big deal. Take a deep breath and have a glass of wine 🙂 It will be okay!
Post # 33
@alzell02: it’s perfectly natural to be stressed. I’m sure you have put a lot of planning into your special day and now something has changed dramatically without your input. So you come to the bee to vent and apparently get ragged on for having an opinion.
Im sure if your sister had done this a month ago you wouldn’t have freaked out. Just remember you’re getting married in a week. In a week you get to commit the rest of your life to the one you love. That’s what is important.
Post # 34
I don’t like tattoos or piercings (apart from ears) and I would have been upset if any of my bridesmaids had done this a week before my wedding too! I hope she can flip it up, this may be her plan anyway. Have a fantastic wedding day!
Post # 35
@alzell02: argh. I don’t know why people have to be so unsupportive. 99% of non-bee people would be bothered by this. Everyone becomes perfect on this site & it can be unrealistic to paint every situation with the same brush.
That piercing is distracting. And to do something just a few days before the wedding seems intentional. I remember my friends younger brother couldn’t handle the attention she was getting and decide to shave his head the night before the wedding. Having never shaved his head prior he looked ridiculous- his scalp was SUPER pale & he looked really bizarre. She was too busy to really give a crap but we all could see what he was doing. Maybe it’s a little of that?
again, I’m sorry. The “putting your life on hold” argument just doesn’t stand up in this situation. You didn’t tell her not to have a baby or anything like that. I’m sorry 🙁
Post # 36
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
My best friend has so many piercings and I don’t mind them, but he’s pretty good about waiting until after events to get them because he knows that sometimes his body rejects them and it doesn’t look pretty. My cousin was a Bridesmaid or Best Man too though and she dyed her hair blue shortly before the wedding (our colours were red and black with not a hint of blue anywhere). I was a little annoyed but I didn’t tell her. She had a great red right before that would have matched our colours eprfectly too *sigh*. Our aunt who lives across the street from her does her hair too, so it could have been done at any time. At least she didn’t get rid of the blue shortly after the wedding (I would have been so mad, but she didn’t/doesn’t know that); she kept that blue for nearly a year. I’m sorry your sister didn’t wait to get her piercing.
Post # 37
I just don’t get this line of thinking at all. You honestly think her nose piercing is going to ruin your photos? HOW? Do you really think every photo is going to complete with elements you love? Every guest will wear a dress you adore, and every bridesmaid will have a hairstyle you think is perfect? Is every groomsmen going to have perfectly groomed facial hair, and even the children you invited as guests are going to look perfectly put together? Doubtful.
It’s a nose piercing that you probably won’t even be able to see in 90% of your photos because they’ll be shot at a distance. If the piercing it going to look tacky and dated, guess what, IT’S ON HER FACE. So she will look bad, not you. Most of the photos where you will be able to see it won’t even be photos you’d put up anywhere in your house, because those will be photos of your and your husband, or photos of the entire party, shot at a distance, so you won’t see the piercing.
This only ruins your photos if you obsess over it and let it ruin your photos.
ETA: One of my bridesmaids dyed her hair bright fiery red a week before my wedding, and I could not have cared less. I chose them because I love them, and wanted them to stand up for me…I didn’t choose them to look like models in my photos. If her red hair looks dated in ten years, then she will look dated in my photos. Fine by me.
Post # 38
I think when you pick your bridesmaids, you pick them as people and not a pretty picture of what they could be. Idealistic pictures are not our real lives–you love her for her!
Also, mabye she will hide the piercing on her own. My maid of honor decided to shave her armpits and I never would have asked her. I was fine either way. The only person I can control is myself, and I wanted to look my best and I knew no one else would be mistaken for the bride!
Post # 39
OP, I get that you’re upset about her not waiting to get the piercing, but, the beauty of most septum piercings is they can be easily hidden. A friend had hers pierced the day before she started a job in a marketing office, and she flipped the ring up so it wouldn’t be seen. After four years with the company, only her closest work friends know that she has it done.
So don’t panic yet. Ask her if she’ll just flip the nose ring up for the wedding.
Post # 40
I understand why you’re upset, but she can just flip it up and it won’t be in any of the pictures.
Post # 41
I think you’re seriously overreacting.
Also, she will only be able to flip it up if she’s got an open ring. If it’s just a plain CBR, it’s not going anywhere.
Post # 42
Yuck. I’d be pissed, too. That was super inconsiderate of her.
Post # 43
For what its worth, none of the wedding photos we have on display include our wedding party, and its quite rare that I see other people have photos framed and hung of their bridal party. I have a bunch of those photos in our album (which I love), but not framed and displayed. So even if you can see it in a photo and you don’t like it, it unlikely to “ruin” your favorite photos of the day. My nose is pierced (on the side) and the only photos where its visable are extreme close ups. I thought of taking it out, but the hole was more obvious that the tiny diamond. I know you’re talking about a different piercing, but hopefully she can flip it, and even if she doesn’t it wouldn’t be crazy obvious. I think I’d notice stretched earlobes before that piercing. But if she’s already very pierced, that one will probably just blend in to be an overall part of her look.
Post # 44
Wow, bees are harsh. I totally understand why you’re upset OP, I would be too. But I’m sure your photos will turn out beautifully no matter what 🙂
Post # 45
None of the guests will care. If I were you, i’d try and be less judgemental toward your friend.
Post # 46
@alzell02: Glad I paid a crap ton to see a damn bull ring in my photos! That was money well spent.
Uh, you paid a lot of money for a photog to capture you and your Fiance getting married. Which has nothing to do with your sister. Your pictures won’t be ruined, and you are way, way overreacting. Nobody judges you based off your sister’s piercing (unless they are as judgemental as you are being, then….who knows).