Post # 47
@alzell02: I think i would be just as frustrated as you… the fact that she was waiting until after the wedding to get a sleeve done shows you that she is aware of how she will look in your bridal party/pictures, so the fact that she couldn’t wait to get a peircing done until after the weddding (did you know she was thinking of getting it done? had she ever mentioned her interest in it?) makes me think she did if for some kind of attention/ (i hate using this word when it come to weddings) jelousy issue… idk that’s just my opinion… however what is done is done and you can’t really repremand her for it, just ask her is she wouldn’t mind flipping it up for the wedding so that there is more of a cohesive look… best of luck, don’t stress out too much 🙂
Post # 48
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’d be annoyed too, to be honest. It’d be one thing if it were a month, or a year ahead of time. But a week?!
Honestly though, you will be so busy and so happy during your wedding that you will NOT have time to worry about this. And if you do, consciously force yourself to stop focusing on the bad and start focusing on all the positive. (I had to do this a couple times, and it really helped me remember in the moment how AMAZING the day was, rather than the fact that the smores supplies weren’t out or the glow sticks were MIA.)
I hope you have a wonderful wedding 🙂
Post # 49
I’m sorry but it is her face and she can do whatever she damn pleases with it. kick her out of the wedding party if it’s that huge of a deal for you. I also seriously doubt that this is going to ruin your pictures, and you’re seriously overreacting.
Post # 50
@Rubbs: “I disagree with a lot of the replies. I’d be pissed too! Granted people don’t have to stop their lives for the bride, but c’mon now, this is going to be in her pictures. It’s not exactly the prettiest looking piercing.“
I’d be pretty annoyed, especially considering she knows your views on tattoos/piercings and that give your opinion you haven’t (I’m assuming) asked her to cover up her tattoos for your wedding. Heck, she’s even waiting until after your wedding to have her sleeve done (which is really considerate) so it makes no sense for her to get this piercing. Unless she’s trying to get attention, piss you off – neither of which, I hope.
Would love an update OP.
Post # 51
Thanks to everyone for their opinions. I still feel like I had every right to be upset, but I calmed down as time went on and I had other issues to handle. She was able to flip it up (something I did not know when I originally wrote this, but thanks to some of you ladies for informing me). I never said anything to her about it, but she knew it was something that I disliked. On the day of the wedding she flipped it up and acutally asked me if she could wear it down during the reception when all the formal photos were finished. I appreciated the fact that she asked and decided to let her be who she was and she wore it flipped down for the reception. 2 days after the wedding she got the outline to her sleeve tattoo. I am not crazy about the piercing or the tattoo, but she is my sister and I love her no matter what. I don’t have to like everything she does though. And when she is getting married, I will out of sisterly love, make sure to mess with her head and have her think I am doing something she completely hates right before. 🙂 Things worked out, now just waiting to see the pictures. Thanks for the supportive bees and I am very disappointed by the judgement I recieved from some of the others.
Post # 52
I’m glad it worked out for you! I would have been really upset too and I think you handled the situation really well!
Post # 53
Get her to wear one with sparkles :). I made sure that all my body jewelry, so much more than most people realize I have…all had sparkles on them, it made me feel pretty and went with the dress. She can change out the piercing too or flip it…there are lots of options.
Post # 55
@Rubbs: Exactly! I agree!