- 2 years ago
Hello Bees! I’ve been married for over six months now and things have been going great! We had a truly beautiful wedding that we still talk about and even my father said he thought weddings like ours only happened in movies (aww!). As you guessed from the title, my oldest sister was my maid of honor and her attitude was the only thing that kinda bothered me. I’ve been avoiding talking about how she made me feel because I didn’t have to face my feelings as long as I didn’t talk about them. Unfortunately, my sister recently stopped talking to me because I decided not to support her relationship with her boyfriend, and that brought back all of what I felt around the time of my wedding.
So, to start with, my sister didn’t offer to help with anything related to my wedding. She didn’t even plan a bachelorette for me. The only thing she cared about was her dress and who’d I pick to do our hair and makeup. In my mind, I thought she was just stressed because her boyfriend wasn’t going to attend, so I asked her only one thing: to make a reservation. She didn’t. The night before my wedding, my friends wanted to get together and have a last-minute bachelorette dinner, so I told everyone my sister would find a spot. The morning of our get-together I found out my sister never even looked up a place, so one of my friends had to locate a place just hours before we were all supposed to meet. The morning of my wedding, she was complaining about everything: having to wake up early for hair/makeup, the food I ordered for everyone, and about the stylists I hired (she didn’t like her hair/makeup). She had a frown in all of the pictures, so she didn’t let me post any of them on social media…
Recently, her boyfriend broke up with her and told her she was “didn’t have enough to offer him anymore.” She was devastated and I tried to be as supportive as possible. This is someone she’s helped pay the rent, internet bills, she’s bought food for him, toilet paper (he literally cleaned himself with paper towels because he was too busy/stressed to go buy toilet paper), even co-signed so that he’d get a student loan and recently, a brand new BMW…He didn’t go to my wedding claiming he couldn’t afford to go ($250 flight ticket). Yet, a couple of months before my wedding he went on a trip with a friend and shortly after he traveled to Mexico (with my sister). They don’y live together. My sister is almost 33 and still lives with my parents. Yes, he has a job but somehow is always short on bills and my sister always helps him. Yet, she wasn’t enough for him? Somehow, only 2 weeks after breaking up, they got back together. I was beyond upset, so I told her I never wanted to hear anything about her relationship and now she doesn’t speak to me. I’m at a loss. This has brought back the hurt I felt that she wasn’t more involved with my wedding, too. Should I just give up and let her be? Should I try to repair things?