Post # 1
I chose to have my two sisters as brides maids (one is older, one is younger). At the begining I told them I wasnt going to choose a maid of honour. But yesterday all day I was thinking, and since my Fiance has one, I thought I should too. I decided to have my younger sister do it (shes 19 and my other one is 25), and she is so excited! When I called her and told her she was over the moon! My Fiance and I only wanted two people for each, and I’m worried she might be hurt that I didnt pick her. My little sister and I are more alike, and alittle closer. And the last time we were all together for a weekend my older sisters attitude towards certain things bothered me. I feel like my older sister would have assumed that she would get it.
So i’m wondering if I should have an explination ready for why I chose my younger sister. Has anyone else had this?
Post # 3
Honestly, I’d have both as Maid/Matron of Honor – it doesn’t make a difference, it’s only a title for a day, not a lifelong obligation. I’ve been to several weddings where there have been two Maid/Matron of Honor and it doesn’t strike anyone as odd, particularly as they’re both you’re sisters. I think it’s worth doing to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings, even if your sister says she’s ok with it, I think this could still potentially hurt her feelings.
Post # 4
But I do have to have someone stand closer to me at the wedding and sign the certificate. Im not asking her to do the usually Maid/Matron of Honor duties (like plan a shower or bachlorette party, I’m not doing those) which she understands. I dont think my older sister will get offended, but I’m probley overthinking it!!
And if I have both now, then it takes it away from my younger sister.
But I think this can apply to best friends/cousins too. Should you have an explination ready incase they ask?
Post # 5
i have two sisters and am having both. they are splitting the duties and its working out wonderfully.