Post # 1
My younger sister and I are really close. We have travelled o/s together, regularly talk for hours, get on really well … and she used to always tell me that I was her best friend. I only have one sister and no other sibblings. However, she didn’t ask me to be one of her bridesmaids. I know its petty, but I still feel really hurt. I especially hate people asking me why I am not a bridesmaids. I know its the brides choice – but should you choose your sister?
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s a “should.”
I did, though.
Have you thought about talking to her? 🙁
Post # 4
Ugh, that’s tough. I’m sorry she didn’t choose you 🙁 Maybe you could ask her really nicely why she didn’t?
I chose my sister, but I consider her a friend as well as my sister. I don’t think that just because you have a sibling they should automatically be in your wedding party. Only if you guys are actually friends outside of your sibling role
Post # 5
Um I would think so….. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we are close but not as close as you described you and your sister… definatly talk to her about it…
Post # 6
Im sorry to hear this…I would be upset too 🙁 I have 2 sisters and there is no question that they will be in my wedding. Please try to talk to her. ((hugs))
Post # 7
May I ask how much older you are than her? If the age gap is significant she may have thought you’d feel awkward doing all of the typical bridesmaid activities with her friends.
Post # 8
Is it possible that she thought you would be to busy to take on the task? I seriously thought about not asking my sister because she is out of state, and has a very demanding job, not to mention being involved in a million other things. I did ask her, though, fully expecting her to say no, but she said she would love to be my maid of honor. I think you should just be direct with her and say something like “I know you didn’t ask me to be in your wedding, I’m just wondering why?”
Post # 9
ugh. Yeah, if I were as close as you say you are I’d def flat out ask her and tell her I’m hurt.
Post # 10
Both of my sisters are my bridesmaids and my boyfriend’s sister are my bridesmaid too. I don’t think she put anything into that, maybe you should have a heart to heart talk to her and figure it out? Hope it sorts it self out with you.
Post # 11
@BridesSis101:i have always been brought up that you have your siblings in the wedding. I honestly think that it is horrible that your sister didnt ask you to be in here wedding. Family is forever. I would tell her how you feel.
Post # 12
Thanks for your posts. I am 2 years older than my sister. I do have a busy job… but nothing really out of the ordinary. I haven’t talked to her about it because I didn’t want to make a fuss or ruin her big day… but every time I speak to her now about the wedding and she starts talking about the venue or bridesmaids, etc., I feel upset.
Post # 13
@BridesSis101: Did she choose her Maid/Matron of Honor yet?
Post # 14
@BridesSis101: Honestly I’d get it out there so you guys can either resolve or move past it – she might have a reason, or she might not have thought about it. You’re being really considerate, but it’s hard to smile while upset inside. I’d just think really carefully about how to approach it. Or maybe ask her how you can be part of her big day and see if she had other ideas in mind.
Post # 15
Thanks for your advice… yes she has choosen her maid of honor. I am not really sure if it will achieve anything if I talk to her than making her upset or uncomtortable,……..
Post # 16
I’m very sorry you’re feeling left out and upset over this. I think I would as well.
I have asked my sisters to be BM’s and also my FSIL’s. (but we’re not as close as you gals sound) but that doesn’t mean that its a have-to beause you’re her sister. In many cultures and families it is tradition to have all siblings and future siblings in the wedding. But again… its not a have-to situation.
I honestly think it would help to know why to clear the air. Maybe there is a good reason behind it. Otherwise you’re going to go through this whole process with these mixed emotions and thats not fun at all. You still want to enjoy your sisters happiness.
Just be careful how you go about it. If you’re as close as you say you are then she will understand why it would upset you and not have a cow about it. you’re not asking her to make you a Bridesmaid or Best Man, you’re just trying to understand why she didn’t pick you.