Post # 1
On Sunday (Valentine’s Day), my sister changed her facebook status from “single” to “engaged” to a coworker. I wasn’t sure how to react to this. As far as I’d known, she wasn’t dating anyone, and I’d never met or heard of the guy she was now linked to on facebook. I wasn’t sure how to believe it, and I thought it might be a joke. So I teted her, asking questions like “Who is —- and why does it say you’re engaged to him on facebook?” I texted a cousin as well, who’s probably closer to my sister than I am. Cuz suggested that sis might be pregnant, which made me start to freak out. Finally I congratulated my sister, and then she told me it was a joke.
The prank didn’t stop there, though. My sister posted multiple status updates about it, including ring pictures, as well as responded to congratulations personally. Over 45 people have posted on her wall to congratulate her. She posted things like “I would have been happy with a ring from a gumball machine.” Her roommate is in on it and posted a 25-pic photo album of my sis and this guy being cute and romantic and showing off a ring. Our aunts and almost all of her sorority sisters still think she’s really engaged.
What do you think of this? It kind of makes me uncomfortable. I worry that when she does eventually get engaged, she will have cheapened it with this elaborate prank. People won’t be as excited for her twice. She’ll be the girl who cried engaged.
This whole thing also makes me worried that my sister is not dealing with me getting married so well. I’m less than a year older than she is (I’m 25, she’s 24). She hasn’t had any serious relationships since her heart got broken soon after she graduated college. When I finally got out of her that she was joking, she said, “Like anyone would ever propose to me” which is BS because the reason so many people fell for this prank was because she’s such a great catch! In fact, she’s always been “the pretty one” and in high school I was convinced she would beat me to the altar even though I’m older. Do you think there’s anything I should be doing to make her feel better about this situation, or is she a big girl who can take care of herself?
I’ve also put a poll because I want to hear what others think of this prank and if I’m overreacting.
Post # 3
I think that’s a pretty dirty prank. Especially to keep it going liek that with comments & pictures of a ring. I’d say Bad Idea. Way Rude for the people who are genuinlly happy for her. Especially for family to think it’s the truth……. YIKES
Post # 4
I don’t think it really concerns you (like your fault or you have to do something about it), but I do think it might hurt people who are sincerely excited for her and are getting taken for a ride. Also, it does sound like she has self-esteem issues about being in a relationship. I wouldn’t make a fuss about it to her, though. If anything, she may need you to be there for her in a non-weddingy way. If you do think that your wedding is what prompted her stunt, maybe try not to talk about it with her too much for a while. Give her some wedding space?
Post # 5
If she’s not really engaged then she has no business lying to the world claiming that she is. She needs to be called out on it. She’ll have to learn the hard way that if she lies enough, people won’t believe her when something real actually happens.
Post # 6
I think that’s a pretty bad prank. A lot of people will be upset with her and she’ll regret doing it. I can’t really understand why she’s doing it. Whether its for attention or she’s mocking someone else, its kinda lame.
Post # 7
I think that’s a super weird “prank” and probably does have some underyling meaning. She’s a big girl, but maybe she IS having a tough time with this. Hang out with her, leave the wedding stuff out, and just be her sister. Make sure she’s ok. After all, it was Vday and that makes some women kinda loopy anyways. Esp single women
Post # 8
I had a friend who did the same thing last year. It’s in very poor taste. I find it to be attention seeking.
Post # 9
I think it was a stupid thing to do, but sometimes it’s a joke in the moment. When I was 18 I jokingly changed my status to married because Future Sister-In-Law kept teasing us that we were an old married couple… no one commented there, but a couple people jokingly brought it up later like, “did you elope?”
It’s in poor taste, but she’ll have to deal with the misunderstanding. You can think it’s immature, and it is, but beyond that it’s for her to deal with.
Post # 12
It seems like she might be a little jealous or feel a little left out somehow, since you are getting all the love attetntion. Especially, being single on valentines day.
The prank was a little strange (ok, really strange), but an obvious cry for attention. I am not saying that she needs/deserves the attention though.
Had she ever pulled stunts like this before when you were growing up?
Post # 13
She needs to grow-up… and unfortunately she has cheapend the moment when she finally is newly engaged…
Post # 14
Wow, thanks for the validation that I’m not the only one who thinks this is weird!
Post # 15
Wow….I could see it being a joke if you were maybe still in college & only changed your status….but to post a bunch of fake pictures & respond to comments while your sister is really engaged?? Ummm, I think she took that one a bit too far. I’m sorry honey! It sucks how competitive sister can be! I would just ignore it, my sister makes a lot of comments about being “alone” since I got engaged, it’s hard.
Post # 16
I voted for “she must be unstable”, “kind of pathetic, really” and that people may be disappointed and hurt.
It’s really quite strange what she did – it’s very elaborate. I would try and have a serious talk with her to find out why she did this.