(Closed) Sisters reaction to bridesmaid dress off etsy… WOW, just wow.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can see why she is upset, the dress is pretty unflattering.  On top of that, seems like it wasn’t made very well.  The top is kind of a mess and not just realted to the corset in the back.  I would just honestly start from scratch, I don’t think this can ba saved.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

It would have been nice to consult with her beforehand, but as you are paying for the dress and it’s your wedding, as long as it’s not too revealing or something it’s really quite rude of her to make a big stink about it it. She really should have shut it and worn it with a smile.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper

On seeing the dress, there’s no reason for her not to have held her tongue and worn it proudly. Sorry she was rude to you about it.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I like the dresses! and like you said, a few alteratiosn will make your MOH’s dress right as rain. I’m sorry she is being a brat 🙁 weddings tend to bring out the worst in people unfortunately

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@joya_aspera:  I only feel like a bridesmaid should have to shut it and wear a dress if they just don’t like the style.  They can depart from their regular style for one day, it doesn’t matter if it is something they would normally wear.  However, if the chosen dress is unflattering and the bridesmaid feels uncomfortable in the dress (which is the issue here) they should absolutely get to veto the dress.  It’s hard with ordering dresses online to know what they will look like on, so to have a dress that has been bought and paid for (by someone else) end up looking terrible on you is not going to be a pleasant feeling.

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My sister was the same way during my wedding planning. Honestly I just IGNORED her. All her comments, complaining, etc just went in one ear and out the other. I wouldnt even give her the time of day for her nonsense. I wouldnt get your sister a new dress. I dont think it looks that bad. If she is concerned about her weight…well…she knows what to do. I think that’s what the major problem is.

Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding last year. The bride picked the dresses without us. I told her (begged!) PLEASE NO STRAPLESS!!! What did she get? Strapless! What did I do? Wear the damn strapless dress and smile all day.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

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@Barbiestylez:  I think the dress is very pretty from the front, and the color looks great with her skin tone. The back definitely needs work. 

I think your sister was just trying to find things about the dress to hate rather than hate on her own shape and weight.

Don’t stress about it. You are being reasonable and she isn’t. Sorry about her attitude :/

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The other dresses are really cute.

Your sister’s dress is not right for her body type. I would recommend something with an empire waist, thick straps, and no corset back (perhaps something with stretchy ruched elastic that will conform to her without giving back spilage). The shade is not great on her–what about a slightly deeper blush tone and then you have the added benefit as distinguishing her as MOH?

Her behavior screams Green Eyed Monster and she probably is upset with herself for feeling so jealous. Get her into a dress she feels good about and I bet she’ll be happier (and maybe nicer).

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@Barbiestylez:  yeah, I’m going to echo all of the previous posters who said your sister’s attitude may have more to do with insecurities about her weight or body shape, than issues with the dress. Obviously the dress needs some alterations to fit properly, but otherwise I think it is fine. There is certainly nothing wrong with the color, and her comments about that show that she is nitpicking and being a little unreasonable. 

From the photos you posted, it is clear that you are much, thinner than your sister. Based on the way the other dresses fit you, I am assuming the rest of your bridesmaids are also thinner than she is. So, I would gueswishes may just be feeling self conscious about being the bigger fairly in the group. I hate to throw around accusations of jealousy, but a little of that may be at play here too. 

Of course, I don’t know your sister at all, so I could be way off base. She may be perfectly happy with her appearance and her attitude could be about something totally unrelated. She could even just be going through a stressful time in her own life and taking it out on you. I feel like you have 2 choices. You can I either ignore the negativity or you can talk to her about it. 

I think the dresses you chose are cute and it was very sweet of you to pay. 

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