(Closed) Sisters reaction to bridesmaid dress off etsy… WOW, just wow.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@Barbiestylez:  I get that you’re upset right now, and if your sister has had other attitude problems that certainly isn’t helping.  But, the dress is kind of ugly.  I don’t know what happened, the other ones look much better made.  The neckline and straps on your sister’s dress are a disaster, it’s hard to believe the same person made all the dresses.  She has to deal with the colour, I’ll give you that one.  But it’s not just the fit of the dress that is off, the whole construction of the bodice is not right.  I would see if you can get a refund for this dress and either get a different style from the same seller or look elsewhere that has a similar colour.

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@Barbiestylez:  She doesnt need to be a supermodel to have a flattering dress. It just doesnt look good on her. I guess I can relate to her. I’ve often ordered clothes that I liked and then got upset when they didnt look good on my body type. She’s probably just defensive about how it doesnt look good on her, so she’s blaming it on the color.

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@Barbiestylez:  That is hard. It sucks that she isnt being more cooperative. I’d sit down with her and figure out whats bothering her (I can only guess that she’s just feeling extremely self conscious,) and let her know that you’re trying to help, but she has to be willing to work with you.

I agree with a PP that something with an empire waist would look most flattering and also probably make her feel more comfortable since there wouldnt be fabric sticking her to stomach.

Post # 38
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Busy bee

Just as she’s ignoring the fact that she had a chance to give more input and could have been more polite, you’re ignoring the fact that the dress is NOT flattering on her and you could have chosen a better looking dress.

There are two sides to every story and both of you are being silly by ignoring the other person’s feelings.

 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

If you need to fire her as maid of honor, feel free! She should be happy and excited and supportive. For whatever reason, she isn’t. If you still want her in your wedding party tell her she can pick out her own dress in the same color, but she will have to pay for it herself. 

Post # 40
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Busy Beekeeper

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@winstonchurchill:  +1 sorry OP from the pics that dress look pretty bad on her figure. Did she have to go complain to everyone, no thats rude on her part, but its not like shes lying. Meanwhile, everyone else looks way better. So that probably adds to her frustration.

 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@Barbiestylez:  I feel like people aren’t reading your update where you said that you sent her some options and SHE picked this one! Like, she picked the dress, and now it’s here and she doesn’t like it? You are nicer than me, honey–I’d be like, “Suck it up, girlfriend, or by your own damn self a new one, because this is the one YOU PICKED.”

I agree with the PP who said you need to have a sit-down talk with her and tell her that you’re feeling bummed that she’s not being supportive. Give her some specific examples that are NOT about the dress, because obviously the dress thing is about her weight and not the dress. Could she already BE pregnant? Maybe that’s why she’s being so bratty, lol.

However, this dress situation is absurd. She needs to apologize for her crappy behavior, IMO. If I were someone’s Maid/Matron of Honor and I didn’t like the dress, I would grin and bear it, ESPECIALLY if I picked it in the first place!! Or buy some industrial strength Spanx or something. Sheesh.

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper

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@howsweetitis:  oh my bad, she picked it? tough cookies, then she needs to get over it. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Barbiestylez:  Honestly I have no idea what other people are saying, I think the dress is flattering, the waist band does a decent job of giving her the look of a smaller waist. Obviously the fit isn’t right, but maybe you should just get it fixed by a local seamstress. I wouldn’t get her a new dress as I think the probelm isn’t the dress, it’s her and she will complain about the new one. 

I read you tried to get her to pic the style and with much effort got her to just ok one..that sucks, I really wouldn’t bother getting her a new dress…just price out alterations and see if you can spend less then a new dress…

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@winstonchurchill:  the OP did ask her sister for approval of the style before she ordered it, she said it in her update.

 

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@Barbiestylez:  I agree with 
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LoveBugBee. If after all that your sister still squawks, I’d tell her that she needs to fix her attitude and be a little grateful as you’re trying to accommodate her…AGAIN.

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

OP, my sister was the same way through the whole process. It was really a downer, but all you can do is smile and be the bigger person, and be excited to get married!

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