- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So my sister has been engaged for awhile (a couple of years) and will be getting married a few months after me…..
I recently found out about her alternative lifestyle (including polygamy and BDSM). I have previously posted regarding this…..
My sister wanted 2 weddings…a ritualistic one and a civil ceremony that she wanted my parents to host in their back yard….my parents aren’t prepared for this (they are having renovations done) and wanted to present a different option of a hall to them…..I went with my mom to look at it, since my mom didn’t really know what to ask….
It is a very nice place, has a great area outside for a ceremony and is within budget….
My parents asked my sister’s FI’s parents what they thought, and they were all for it….until they spoke to my sister’s Fiance….they decided that they are only doing the ritualistic wedding and everyone (my sister and Fiance, his parents and my parents) will put in 1/3 for the wedding…this would be $5000 from each person….
My parents are not prepared to do this….they have issues because they aren’t going to have it be a REAL marriage (it’s just a $15000 party), and my sister will continue collecting disability even though you aren’t supposed to…..
my parents are not happy…..I’m not impressed that someone who does not work wants a $15000 wedding (which is my budget which my ssiter KNOWS so I have a feeling that’s where they got their number from)….my Fiance and I are working our butts off to pay for our wedding ourselves….I don’t really care what her FI’s parents contribute but they haven’t even talked to my parents themselves….her FI’s mother called and told htem this plan….
I know I can’t DO anything (yet again) with this bizarre scenario…..It just bothers me that they want money from my parents and they won’t even CALL them….my parents have not heard from them in a couple of months (they live about 15 minutes away from them)……and it bothers me that they PLAN on ripping off the government (I’m sensitive to this since I work wiht people with disabilities and getting them work/disability supports)…..
And since they are dating another couple plus extra people I’m not sure WHY this wedding even needs to take place at this point….I have no issues with the actual alternative lifestyle, it’s the not being honest to the people you are expecting to give you money for the wedding that’s an issue….would her FI’s parents be so determined for this wedding if they knew the truth? I don’t know, and likely they think they wouldn’t be or they would be more honest about their lifestyle choices…..
any thoughts on this bizarre scenario….no, it does not directly involve me, but it is a hard situation to watch……