Post # 1
I am so happy that my sister is finally getting married but my heart aches for her. When she first annouced who was in the bridal party i was happy i liked everyone in it and of course being her only sister was the Maid/Matron of Honor.But when her best friend found out she was not the Maid/Matron of Honor she said no to being in the wedding cause apparently being a bridesmaid wasn’t good enough for her or special enough for her to go out of her way and buy a dress. After a week they pathced things up and she agreed to be in the wedding, I thought all the drama was over with but i thought wrong.. When she set the date for her wedding the problem bridesmaid said she couldnt make it because she didn’t want to cut her BC vaction short a day and said my sister shouldn’t be a b**ch and switch the days cause its not about her. hello its her wedding of course its about her!! Now with the bachelorette party being just days away i’m worried that its going to suck, her fiance’s bachelor party has a lot of cool stories and fun that I feel her’s is going to suck. My plan was to have dinner at her favorite resteraunt than go to the club.. I feel that compaired to his party her’s is going to suck and i don’t know what else to do.. and that ive only got confirmation of maybe 10 people showing up out of the 50 i invited. I have a feeling cause her replacement bridesmaid is a d**k and is throwing someones birthday party that same day and invited everyone on my list. Ugh I’m so stressed about this wedding and its not even mine!!
Post # 2
SnapGrr: Your sister will have a brilliant time and will apprciate all that you have done to arrange her hen do. Dinner and a club sounds nice. It doesn’t matter that all 50 people won’t be going. Try to think on the bright side, less people = logistically easier to manage, less stressful, your sister will be able to spend quality time with those who have been invited instead of breif conversaitons with 50 people. I am sure there will be fun had by all and fun stories to share afterwards.
It is nice that you care so much and want her to have a great time but try not to stress. You are doing a great job. Good job her “BF” isn’t her Maid/Matron of Honor – she sounds like a total douche.
Post # 3
Thank you. That has made me feel a little better.. I just want her to have the best night ever but I am just worried that it’ll be a flop, she’s my big sister and I want her to feel special and have the best night ever
Post # 4
SnapGrr: You are doing awesome and I am sure she’ll love it! If she doesn’t know 50 people were invited she’ll probably be thrilled by the people who are there.
Post # 5
Wow that “best friend” would not qualify to that title if I were your sister… I have a similar problem in choosing my Maid/Matron of Honor as I know if I choose my best friend, my sister will rage and threaten me to not choose me come to her own wedding, but if I choose my sister, she’ll be a total control freak over the wedding or smth and my best friend will be hurt cause she doesn’t have any sister of her own to be Maid/Matron of Honor one day…!!! So, I think your sister is REALLY lucky to have you and I wish my sister would be so caring : ) and btw it’s awesome you could invite 50 ppl in the first place, I think my Maid/Matron of Honor will have a hard time inviting even 10 ppl at all, but I do believe a smaller group is better as it is more intimate and less hassle!! Try to not stress out too much, like you said, it’s not your wedding but your sister’s so you don’t have to feel all the pressure!!!
Post # 6
SnapGrr: She’s going to have a great time! Honestly, I would SO rather go out with a group of 10. 50 people is too many, anyway! 10 is way more fun and everyone feels like they were really a part of the day. Your sister’s friends sound VERY immature — it’s probably a good thing some aren’t coming. She will probably have MORE fun without them!!
Post # 7
Some best friend! My best friend has pretty much always known that my sister would be Maid/Matron of Honor. And I know if my best friend ever gets married, I will be her Maid/Matron of Honor. She was definitely a little disappointed, but she took it really well and did an amazing job as a bridesmaid. She knew that while we have been friends for a while, my sister has ALWAYS been my best friend. I couldn’t imagine not asking her. My best friend and my sister planned all of the pre-wedding events together.
I agree with PPs saying that 10 is a way better group anyway! I had a pretty small bachelorette, and I was also REALLY sick for it (a really wicked cold, lost my voice), and I still had a great time. It was nice to be able to chat with a small group of great girls, mostly family and a couple friends.
Post # 8
You are being a wonderful sister and a fabulous MoH!! She will have a wonderful time because it was a party planned by someone who loves her and wants to make it special. That’s what she will remember–it sounds like it will be an intimate party at her fav place with her fav people who want to be there with her. 🙂