Post # 1
I always have liked the idea of tucking an individual menu into the napkin at each guest’s place setting. But lately, everyone has been talking me out of doing a menu for our sit-down meal, and they make a good point:
If you give each guest a menu of the dinner selections, guests may try to switch the selection they marked on their RSVP card, either forgetting what they had asked for or thinking something else sounds better.
This could cause trouble, seeing as all of their escort cards will be carefully marked with their original dinner selections.
So for those brides who had sit-down meals, what did you do about your menu? Did you save money and trouble and forgo the menu? Did you tailor each guest’s menu to his or her dinner selection? Did your menu showcase all the entree selections (and did you have any guests trying to ask for a different entrees as a result)?
Post # 3
I voted for the first one even though the wedding hasn’t happened yet — We are doing invidiualized menus for our guests since we’re asking each of them to tell us what they want. That way they won’t try to change their minds when they’re reminded how tasty the meal is that they are about to have 🙂
Post # 4
I just ordered wedding invitations this weekend, and in the midst of that I was askinng about menu cards and whether or not I needed them. We are having a sit down dinner, and in the invitation they will be able to choose which entree they want. Why spend a couple hundred bucks on menu cards for every individual person when they’ve already ordered what they want. No last minute changes will be allowed. What I think I may do is get one menu card for each table, which will cut the costs down tremendously… or upon entree into the reception, where the place cards are located have a board showing the evenings menu… Like you would see in a resturant.
Post # 5
Menus are pretty cheap and easy to put together – they definitely do not need to cost a couple hundred bucks!
I think guests might enjoy reading a more thorough description of what they ordered because they might not remember what they chose on the RSVP card. Hopefully they don’t try to change their meal selection but if they do, make sure the wait staff politely but firmly tells them that no changes can be made at this time. I agree that one menu per table might be a good way to go.
Post # 6
We decided to serve the meal family-style so people can change if they want to. So we’ll put everything on the menu cards, so guests know what the foods are.
Honestly, if I were you, I would probably skip the menu cards. Could you come up with something else to tuck into the napkins? What are you doing for favors? What about a thank-you-for-coming note? Something else?
Post # 7
I am not giving guests a choice so we will have the menu printed so they will know if they don’t like the main course to fill up on salad and side dishes.
But what if you printed menus with only what they ordered on different colors depending on what they picked? It would be cuter than stickers on place cards and you could lay out what they get to eat, and still have the menu in the napkin look.
Post # 8
I think you should only have menu cards if your guests haven’t "ordered" yet. Most likely guest WILL change their minds depending on what they feel like having that night given the chance. I say save yourself some money and a headache and forgo the menu. We’re doing a buffet dinner, so we’ll probably have one menu at each table telling people what is on the buffet since no one will know prior to entering the reception what food we’re having.
If you’d really like to have printed menus you could always have one menu on each table and list the different courses, since everything else will be the same for every guest. Under the entree portion you could write "indicated on escort card" or "previously requested" or something along those lines. That way you’ll still have the pretty menus listing the appetizers, salad, dessert, etc. and you dont give the guests a chance to change their previously ordered entree.
Post # 9
Thanks for all of your advice, girls! I am leaning toward putting one menu on each table, so I am saving money but still letting guests read about their delicious dinners!
@tag117: I am totally with you on saving the extra money on menus, especially when our guests already have chosen their food!
@grey56: I am putting a favor at each place setting, too, so hopefully this will be enough without the menu card!
@vistagirl: I’m actually not using stickers on the escort cards, but pretty ribbon instead! I thought about giving each guest a tailored menu, but then realized that would require assigned seating, and I don’t know if I want to go that far! (I am doing assigned tables, though.) I wish I had the ambition to make this idea work, though!
@MissCamera: I like your idea about clarifying their "previously indicated" meal choices on the menu card. I might try that, too!
Post # 10
I didn’t make individual menus for the place settings- I did one per table.
I did a tri-fold standing thing (out of cardstock) that had the table number on one side, the info about the donation in lieu of favor on another, and the menu on the 3rd.
I love reading the descriptions of what I’m eating- especially if the bride and groom put a lot of thought into it.
However, people changing their minds wasn’t an issue for us- we did family style- so everyone got to try everything!