Sitting adult couple at children (young adult's) table

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Please do not seat two adults at a table full of kids that feels so wrong. If there are some parents who feel their kids will be seated too far away why not just have those concerned parents seated with their kids? Or arrange the tables in a way where the kids aren’t so far. But that first option…nope. I’d rather sit at a table made for two than the kids table.

Post # 3
2387 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Do not put adults on a kids table. Find another solution 

Post # 4
353 posts
Helper bee

Agreed. Don’t put the aunt and uncle at the table with the kids. 

If there’s concern about kids sitting with parents, do you have to do a kid table at all? Can you just sprinkle the kids through the tables near their respective parents?

Post # 5
45534 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Seat the children with their parents.

Post # 9
44 posts

Don’t seat the adult couple at the kid’s table. Why can’t they tolerate each other over one dinner? That would be the adult thing to do! The kids table idea works though. 

Post # 10
2749 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Please don’t sit them at the kids table. I actually think it’s rude to put 20 year olds at the table with children too. 20 year olds are adults, and I would be irritated to be sitting with 12 year olds. 

Post # 11
20 posts

gullivermouse :  B….this is one of those instances where you’re gonna have to put your foot down.  They want things their way but this is YOUR wedding.  If you have a problem with putting adults at a kids table, then say so and make it very clear what is and is not happening!  Make it very clear that you will not be joining in the family drama and so you will be assigning accordingly.  Sometimes adults act like children….don’t cater to them.   

Post # 12
70 posts
Worker bee

I’ve never been a fan of kids only tables unless the kids all know each other well. I went to one wedding where my brother and I were seated with people our age we’ve never met before. My poor mother (she’s not good at small talk) had to sit alone with strangers when we actually had relatives at the wedding. It was weird. I got up and sat with my mom when a few people from her table left early.

I’m a fan of families being seated together, unless otherwise indicated by the guest.

You mentioned that your FFIL is the one that wants his siblings at his table, but did you actually ask the siblings? If they prioritize being seated with their kids over sitting with FFIL, then put their needs first. Put their tables next to each other so the siblings can still mingle.

I don’t see why you can’t put the aunt and uncle at any other table. They are two adults that can keep each other company if they’re seated with other adults. Are you trying to keep brides’ guests and grooms’ guests seated seperate?

Post # 15
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

12-20 is old enough to sit on the other side of a resturaunt. sounds like people are being silly and forgetting how stressful wedding seating can be. just do what you need to do, people will move around a little too after they eat. I think the kids will enjoy each others company more than their parents’ company and putting your adult in laws at another table will be fine. 

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