Post # 15
It’s your wedding. Make your own seating chart the way you see fit.
I would put the offending aunt/uncle with your family and all the kids together, or seat all the children with their parents.
Personally it annoys the shit out of me when I don’t get seated with the people I came with.
Post # 16
gullivermouse : They don’t have “goggles” on. They know 1000% that it IS a big deal…they are doing this on purpose to humiliate the “bad” aunt/uncle. I would do TWO children’s tables… one for the actual children and one for your FI’s family who are acting like children.
Speaking of whom….what is your FI doing about this? It’s HIS family – he needs to shut this sh*t down… Everyone needs to GROW THE F* UP for ONE freaking day.
Post # 17
I’ve been to a lot of weddings and the ones that worked out best imo had no seating chart. This isn’t kindergarten, people will sit where they please anyway.
Post # 18
gullivermouse : B….this is one of those instances where you’re gonna have to put your foot down. They want things their way but this is YOUR wedding and therefore you and your FI have final say. If you have a problem with putting adults at a kids table, then say so and make it very clear what is and what is not happening! Make it very clear that you will not be joining in the family drama and so you will be assigning accordingly. Sometimes adults act like children….don’t cater to them and don’t be a part of the drama.
Post # 19
yupmarried : This….I agree completely!
Post # 20
Don’t let ANY family members have ANY input whatsoever of the seating chart, which is hard enough to plan without bad blood between people. IMO your family can be pleasantly surprised about who’s sitting where the day of.
Post # 21
gullivermouse : I went to an engagements it party where the mother on the groom was fighting with her two sisters and sat them on the kids table unbeknown to the bride and groom. Totally awkward!!! I was ten or so and I still remember this!!
Can you sit them with some other couples, adult friends of yours or your extended family?? I think that would be a good solution and I think its pretty had that your fiancés family suggested the kiddies table….😕
Post # 22
just sit them with other guests, im sure the aunt and uncle would be a little more happy sitting with 20/30 somethings then a bunch of 10 year olds.
that or tell your family to grow up, and make them sit together like you planned. Most people dont stay seated very long when it comes to wedding receptions anyways.
Post # 23
They are doing this on purpose to humiliate that couple. Figure out your own solution on your own, without any input from them. Go ahead with your plans, with out telling them. They have no business putting their opinions in. I’m surprised you’ve let them talk about this issue for as long as you have. You don’t need their opinions, or permissions.
Post # 24
gullivermouse : Why can’t your aunt/uncle table (with the outcast couple) be on the same side of the room as your FILs? That way everyone can be near the kids’ table.
Post # 25
This, that rosydelight said
“Go ahead with your plans with out telling them. They have no business putting their opinions in. I m surprised you ‘ve let them talk about this issue for as long as you have. You don’ t need their opinions, or permissions.
is all the advice you need OP, don’t spend another 5 mins arguing or worrying about it. Do not engage with any of them except to say ‘yes, the seating chart is beign done thanks’
Post # 26
yupmarried : I agree. Seating charts may be fun to put together but it’s an unnecessary thing.
OP, my parents would bring me along to distant relatives’ or family friends’ weddings even when I was twenty-something years old. I’d barely know anyone and would have been mortified if I had to sit next to some strangers’ kids/teens. I would have rather made small talk with my parents. My parents would also often start conversations with people they just met from the other party’s side (sometimes those people also being distant to whichever side invited them and not really knowing anyone else).
If those weddings would have had assigned seats or even bride’s/groom’s sides, I don’t think people would have enjoyed it much.
So let people sit wherever they want with the exception of reserved tables for the wedding parties, or at least let the children (whatever age) sit with their parents.
Post # 27
MexiPino : My severely ill grandmother will be at my mom’s table (also ill), and I’d like to have my aunts/uncles near them in case either of them needs assistance with food etc., or help with my mom’s mentally handicapped brother. Otherwise my aunts/uncles wouldn’t care where they were sitting really
Post # 28
Thank you all for your input! I can’t believe I’m letting something as ridiculous as table arrangements get me stressed out because a few people needed to throw a tantrum about where everyone was seated. My hope is that everyone will be mingling and having fun anyway, so why is it even that big of a dealto them. My fiance and I are going to be handling this together and nip it right in the bud before it progresses any further than it already has. We want to enjoy these last few days before the wedding!!
Post # 29
How awful would you feel if you were the only adults seated at the kids table? That’s ridiculous, don’t do that to them. I would be livid if I were in that situation. I’m sure you can find another table of adults to seat them with that isn’t family.