(Closed) Sitting, Waiting, Wishing…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BadaBingBling:  Hmmm, sounds frustrating especially after 7.5 years. I think Mr. Bee’s Plan would be a terrific idea. Focus on yourself and your goals and hopefully that helps. If he still hasn’t made any sort of move after a reasonable amount of time, I would sit down with him and explain exactly what you did in your post. The proposal being a suprise doesn’t mean that he gets to put it off indefinitely. 

That being said, most guys do want the proposal to be a surprise. They are so scared that it won’t be special or perfect or that they will be rejected. So they try to find a time that will be perfect and that in itself takes time. To us, it feels like they are putting it off. I guess sometimes we could be more understanding of their feelings toward the whole thing. 

Anyway, focus on doing things for yourself for now and see where it takes you!

Post # 4
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It sounds like you guys haven’t had too much in-depth conversation regarding marriage.  Depending on your guys’ dynamics, I would sit down with him when you guys are both in a good mood, and talk as honestly and openly as possible.  Ask him how he sees the next few years of his life playing out…tell him your own timeline of events.

If you can bring it up, ask how he’d feel if you gave him some ideas in terms of what sort of ring you’d like.  Show him some moissy websites so he can do some research.  Suggest you go to a jeweler to try things on IRL if you both are comfortable.  You can show him styles you like while leaving the final decision and surprise up to him.

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