Post # 1
Anyone ever had one of those times where you wish it was coming but you know it’s not?
I don’t mean getting strung along… I mean, when you know the proposal is coming, but you just don’t know when, and everytime you’re having a perfect moment it just happens to not be THE moment.
Kind of like me 20 minutes ago with SO on a business trip and he needed me to read off his bank account to him, when I asked what he needed it for he said for something “expensive”. Usually he’s extremely good at throwing me off if it’s something for me, or he flat out tells me what he’s purchasing when it’s for a friend/family member.
Post # 3
ha ha this is basically my life. all the time right now. 🙁
I am trying my hardest NOT to allow myself to think ‘maybeeee this is the moment/ maybeee its when we got to XXXX/ Maybeee its this weekend’
but its not easy, and i have gotten upset on a couple of occassions now, (your only human i guess!)
Post # 4
@mollypuppy: yep, and the problem is that not only does he feel bad, but then i feel bad for making him think i’m expecting so much out of him when i should be happy that he’s making me happy!
Post # 5
Sometimes it us doing it to ourselves.
My Fiance would take me to dinner at a special restaurant – and I would be like *this is it this is it this is it!!!* and…nothing.
Or he got us a cruise for Christmas…or going to a special New Years Eve party.
Every single time I would get all hyped up thinking about a possible proposal and not just enjoy the moment. Now I wish I would have just been happy and in the moment for that special birthday dinner…I went through two horrible years of this. Why do we do this?!?! lol
Anyways, it’s usually not him ‘leading you on’ so much as him showing you he trusts he, and loves you – if it’s right it will come. It just takes guys a lot longer to get used to the idea then it does for us.
Post # 6
@suburbian: i hate the whole process cause i would LOVE to just be able to enjoy these lovely moments in our relatinship, instead im in bits inside thinking is it coming?!!
i think the worst worry for me is; i hope i still have that moment of absolute joy, i really worry i will just be like OOH FINALLYYY!!! its a bit like the longer i wait, the less excited i am and the more annoyed/(dare i say resetful) i feel…you know what i mean?
Post # 7
I fully understand. My SO says all sorts of things that get me wondering but I am doing much better at realizing that the more I try to anticipate things, the more I will let myself down needlessly.
I know a proposal is coming and I’m quite sure it will happen before the end of the summer, what more do I need than that? I just have to keep reminding myself of our fantastic relationship and that it’s not his fault I’m reading too much into things all the time or taking one little comment he makes and blowing it totally out of proportion.
Try not to spend too much time in the waiting forums 🙂
Post # 8
@mollypuppy: I have said it before but I strongly feel like I would have waited another year if I wouldn’t have forced Fiance to wrap his head around the idea sooner. I would bring it up in non-threatening ways – like…who would you want to be in your wedding party? Or – what do think about getting married outside? Or – what’s your favorite kind of cake…would you want that for a wedding cake flavor?
Also, I asked other – more long term questions – like, how will we split the bills after we are married. How many kids do you see us having? Where do you see us in three years?
I always tried to keep it light and conversational – never pushy and never accusatory. For my Fiance I think the idea of getting married was just so huge he couldn’t swallow it all one sitting. So this helped him to get familiar with the things associated with weddings and marriage without ever getting scary or threatening.
It sounds like I treated him like a little kid – which maybe in some ways I was persistant and thoughtful enough to not disagree. But each time we talked dhe would warm up to it more and more.
I’m not saying I have all the answers – or that I didn’t have internal freak outs pretty consistantly (sometimes external). I just wanted to pass along my 2 cents. 🙂 Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
@mollypuppy: You’ll still be excited, trust me! I had that same rollercoaster of emotions and when it happened I had to tell myself it was happening then I got all gushy and “OMG Yes!” lol
Post # 10
@NinjaWings: I know exactly how you are feeling! I am feeling that way right now! It’s pretty frustrating!
Post # 11
ugh, hes supposed to do it before september so every saturday i hold my breath but nope, hasnt come yet…only 11 more saturdays left…
Post # 12
There have been SOOO many moments where all of a sudden I think he’s going to propose and I start breathing heavy and NOPE! Nada. I think most girls would agree with you they’ve had those moments!
Post # 13
I got “Well I can’t buy it in front of you!” yesterday… I’m not sure what to make of that.
Post # 14
@lauralynn: If that isn’t a sign then I don’t know what is!
I’m pretty sure showering us with the nice-ness is just their best method of throwing us off with out being jerks.
Post # 15
I’m not quite there yet, but SO is taking paid time off from work for our 7 year anniversary ( July 1 ) and the 4th of July. I don’t see how he would have the ring we picked out already, but I keep thinking about those dates. Trying not to psyche myself out.
We’re also planning a romantic trip in October.
He’s always told me it wouldn’t be a holiday like a birthday or Christmas or V-Day, but he also told me ( for the first time ever ) that he’s planning on being home for holidays this year. He’s always offered to work for those with spouses or kids before. I’m very excited to have Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Year’s with him, but I’m wondering why this year he has decided he needs to have family time.
Post # 16
I just hope that when it finally happens I say yes instead of “it’s about damn time”