Post # 1
My wedding is about six months away and I have done NOTHING to plan for it except:
– got the venue
– ordered a dress (but no fitting/alterations yet)
– have a caterer informally agreed to (friendor)
I’m freaking out and worried that my wedding is going to be terrible and we’re not going to be able to find the 8 million things we still need: DJ, cake, BM/GM/G attire, decorations, celebrant, photographer, probably other things I am forgetting.
Can I hear from some bees who planned a wedding for 300+ people on shorter notice than this and everything turned out okay? Any tips for breaking it down so things don’t seem so overwhelming?
Post # 3
My engagment was only 4 1/2 months and we got everything we wanted.
Actually we got really lucky, our date just happended to be open because another couple canceled and our first choice photography, florist, DJ and baker were all free. I just look at it as God saying its meant to be!!!
Post # 4
My wedding is 4.5 months away and you’ve got more done that we do. We had a venue, but now we’re changing our minds about it. DJ is booked. Food is still in negotiations because we’re still changing our menu. I haven’t even tried on dresses. I think you’ll be fine. When we got engaged on 3/21, we had a little less than 6 months to plan. I ran out and bought a planner and magazines, etc. And they scared the bejeezus out of me because they all started 18 months out.
My advice, make lists and lists and lists. I have an excel spreadsheet that I look at every day. It has my guest list on one tab and my budget on another. Do whatever organizing makes you comfortable, set a timeline of when you want everything done, and stick to it.
Post # 5
I did it in 5!
Make a checklist and put a time stamp on each item. Don’t use the silly ones from the Knot. They want you to have everything done 1 yr in advance.
Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses- buy them off the rack
DJ- set up 1 meeting a week for the next 5 weeks.
If you really buckle down right now, you’ll be able to get the balls rolling on celebrant, photographer and cake. If you can, delegate: get your mom or someone to do the preliminary question-asking for the photog, get a bridesmaid to call around for cake prices.
If you have no one helping you, honestly, the biggest thing you’ll miss out on is the luxury to spend weeks at a time looking at, say, cakes, to decide what you want. If you can make decisions quickly and realize that your wedding will be better for it, you should be ok.
Edit: Just saw you have 300 people- I have 40, but have planned a wedding for 120 in 6 months. I still think it can be done. With that many people though, I’d get your invites out EARLY. You’ll need an accurate headcount.
Post # 6
@NewMrsAnderson: Thank you, this is really helpful. It is hard not to look at theknot and see, “These 89 items are overdue” and not feel like it’s too late for everything!
Post # 7
@LovebirdsSC: Haha well I don’t know that we’ll be that lucky but I’m glad it worked out for you!
Post # 8
@All In: I logged into The Knot once and almost had a panic attack. Forget about it, now I just get the emails for local deals and those actually help make it more affordable. But I don’t even log into the site because I don’t need them yelling at me.
Post # 9
@bells219: Thanks for the tip about the invites–luckily both our venue and caterer are super-flexible about headcount, but we will need to know about 1 month in advance so will try to send out the invites 2 months out… which is EARLY!
The other problem is I am planning long-distance. Honestly, I don’t really care what our cake/flowers/everything look like–I just know we’re supposed to have something so we’re going to. That makes it both easier and harder, I think!
Post # 10
It seems like you have the major big tickets items. Even if you aren`t a list person. I would write things you have to get done, then start researching and setting plans in motion. Perhaps set aside a couple hours or part of the weekend that is devoted as your wedding time for you to get things done.
Post # 11
Ugh, I hate those checklists that assume you have 12-16 months to plan! I got so stressed immediately after our engagement because I felt like we were already so far behind. Definitely make one for yourself and divide it into chunks. I find it helpful to have it all down and be able to focus on one section at a time.
Also, delegate as much as you can if you have family/friends who are willing to help. Any friends who have offered to help me have instantly gone on my “help list” and I have told them, “I will take you up on that offer!”
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Ignore the knot timelines- I was supposed to have half of the list done before we were engaged. :)-
We’re having a six month engagement, and you’ve already done the two things that took us the most time- venue and caterer.
I think the issue with the larger guest list will be your invites-printing, addressing, stamping, etc. So give yourself extra time for that. Your favors (if you do them) will take more time.
Excel spreadsheets will be your best friend. Also- make decisions and stick with them. Ex: flowers- we’re DIY-ing these, I’ve picked what we’re going to buy, and I’m not changing it.
Post # 13
@TwoCityBride: Definitely making time is the issue… I like using weekends to relax but I think for awhile wedding planning is going to be a part time job 🙂
Post # 14
@Fairy Penguin: It’s so hard to ask people for help! But you’re right, this is definitely a good time to lean on my ‘maids and madre. 🙂
Post # 15
I am curently planning my wedding in 3 months exactly, my family has been extremly helpful and I already pretty much have everything done! I am marrying my marine so when i tell vendors or for example my dress lady they were so nice and called the company had my dress rushed gave me a discount and didnt make me pay the $600.00 rush fee! It is totally do able, those timelines are silly do things as you wish. It is extremyl helpful to buy things on here too because you usually get them cheaper and in a short ammount of time. The ONLY downfall is that because if you are like me and are buying/collecting things as you find them you end up taking up an entire room for all you stuff -___-…but it is fun, and good luck! you will be fine 🙂
Post # 16
i’m not, but my cousin did. she had a 6 month engagement, but didn’t start planning until her wedding was 10 weeks away! her wedding was a little on the smaller side, tho. but still, with help, i definitely think you can pull it off 🙂