Post # 1
Silly worry but I just have to ask. Has anyone been a tall bride with short bridesmaids? I’m average height (5’5″) but everyone thinks I’m taller because of my long, thin limbs. My bridesmaids are all under 5’2″ (I don’t know how I ended up with all short friends) plus my mom is 5’2″. I found a pair of heels I like but they will make me at least 5’8″/5’9″. I’m really worried I’ll look huge in my pictures next to my friends and family. I thought about wearing flats for pictures but then realized my dress might look weird since it will be hemmed to the heel height. Should I just stick with wearing flats on my wedding day? I know this is a small concern and petty, but I don’t want to feel self-concious of my height everytime I look at wedding pictures.
Post # 2
jeg14: Everyone you know already knows that you are of averge height and your girlfriends are short. It will not be a surprise to them on your wedding day.
Post # 3
I’m tall, I will always be tall. I don’t walk around worrying about being tall. I don’t know why it should make any difference in wedding photos vs the rest of my life. I am taller than all my bridesmaids, my mom, his mom, and my Fiance. I will wear heels on my wedding day because I like them. So what?
Post # 4
jeg14: You know your bridesmaids better than we do, but I imagine there’s a decent chance they’ll be wearing heels also. The height difference would be roughly the same as in flats.
Post # 5
I suggest you ask your BMs to also wear heels too. They don’t need to be as high as yours, but I think all in “kind of similar” height heels makes sense.
I had the opposite “problem”, and my photos were fine even though my sister and I are shorter than my Maid/Matron of Honor. But to me anyway, the bridesmaids photos were simply “me and my best friend and my sister” photos, not perfect model shots. After all, she’s taller than me in every other photo of us!
Post # 6
Don’t even give it a thought. Wear whatever you like, and allow your BMs to do the same. This is not the first time you’ve stood next to your friends, and they all know how tall/not tall you are.
Post # 7
Will your bridesmaids be wearing heels? Because, if so, the height difference will be the exact same! And even if they’re not, I say go for it. It won’t look weird at all.
Post # 8
Don’t worry about it! I’m 5’9″, and I’m wearing 3″ heels. My tallest bridesmaid is maybe 5’6″, and the shortest is about 5′. I told them to wear any silver shoes they’re comfortable in, and the funny thing is that the tallest one will be in sky high heels, and the shortest will likely be in flats. And I’ll still be taller than all of them.
The only reason I’m not wearing taller heels is my fiance wants to make sure he’s noticeably taller than me. And even with the extra length on the dress, a 3″ heel was the most I could do.
Post # 9
You should require your bridesmaids to wear the same shoes…then choose 6in heels! I’m only kidding. I understand how you feel. My fiance isn’t extremely tall…5’11″…I’m 5’6″ but love heels. On a regular basis I always wear 4 or 5in heels. But for my wedding pictures…The ones where we are up at the alter & walking togethe…I don’t want to seem to be as tall or taller than him. But, I don’t feel pretty in flats..and I want to feel pretty on my wedding day…but I also despise kitten heels…and no I want to like my wedding shoes! Anyways, this isn’t about me haha sorry, I would ask your bridesmaids, really really nicely, if they would please wear heels along with you so that you don’t feel like a giant. Good luck & I hope everything goes well!