Post # 1
I am attempting to start a polite campaign to end our beautiful brides from always having to mention size. ALL brides are beautiful, so I think to avoid hurting others’ feelings, it would be more sensitive to simply mention for instance that a sample gown didn’t fit you b/c it was too big (or small) without stating a specific size. I am not speaking personally. I think being a bit older and married that these things just roll right off me, but I just read two posts in a row where several brides (posters and commenters) went on and on about their size. I did an internal cringe. Please be sensitive.
Post # 3
I see your point and mostly agree. However, since bridal gown “sizes” are so vastly different than “normal” sizes, sometimes listing the size is very helpful.
But definately, no one should be judged, or judge themselves, based on a number.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone should edit themselves from the truth. You are right, it is just a number. But, it is different numbers for different people, and certain dresses are more easily obtained in numbers on both sides of that scale. Let’s not censor the truth. People can hopefully be happy with what they are without having to be coddled.
Post # 5
While I agree that size is “just a number”, I dont have any issue with people being honest about their size. I’ve mentioned that I’m a size 24 on here only about a bazillion times. Do I wish I was smaller? Uh, yea but I’m not about to hide who I am for the sake of making other people uncomfortable. If someone is uncomfortable with me posting about my size then the issue lies with them, not me…
Post # 6
This post doesn’t even make sense to me. Can someone dumb it down, why shouldn’t you mention your gown size??
Post # 7
@Belle2Be: Lol, I was kind of confused too. To be honest, I dont even really know what the jist of this post was other than the OP feeling that mentioning sizes are cringe worthy. Hence, my comment. *shrugs*
Post # 9
lol yeah i started to try to explain what I thought the OP meant but i dug myself into a deeper hole!!
Post # 10
I think the point is if someone says “They put me in a size ____, which was HUGE! RIDICULOUS!” or something similar someone that is size____ may get their feelings hurt. I don’t agree, but I think that is what she was getting at. I went rehearsal dinner dress hopping with my older sister months ago and she FREAKED because she had to get a dress in a size six and was like “I DONT WANT TO SAY I WAS A SIZE SIX ON MY WEDDING DAY! roar blah blah blah” Since I am a size eight I was kind of hurt. But looking back, she is like 5’3″ and I am 5’7″. Who cares? I don’t care about the number, its all about my awesome shape and if I have to get a size 121234234234 dress, if it looks awesome on me, I don’t really care what size it is.
Post # 11
Personally I cant understand why size numbers are even an issue, some people are bigger than others and thats just the way it is, the size number isnt what makes a person bigger, so i’m not sure why people freak out because of the size number labelled in their dress. If it fits you then whats the problem? Why should the number inside the dress be an issue. I fail to get what the big deal is.
Post # 12
Sorry, I’m sure the OP means well but I don’t get the point. If I’m size 2 and the sample size 10’s look ridiculous on me and I can’t figure out how the final dress will look why wouldn’t I mention this? This is a valid concern and issue shared by many petite brides and I’ve participated in several helpful threads about this. By mentioning I’m petite I might make a plus size bride feel bad??? By that logic I should feel bad for lack of my height when someone mentions they’re having issues finding a used dress because they’re six feet tall? Or I shouldn’t mention my alteration woes due to an hourglass figure because someone with more athletic build may get upset? We’re all brides of different body types and sizes here, and there’s nothing wrong with talking about this. We’re all here to talk about our own issues and questions and help each other out.
Post # 13
@meliss: agreed. That post was just my attempt at understanding what she was saying. I don’t think anybody should filter their posts.
Post # 15
@astrangeharris: Yeah, that kind of stings, but at the same time–I don’t know these people, so who cares? Now, one of my cousins, when she was pregnant, said something about how “140 lbs is SO FREAKING HUGE!” when I was actively struggling with my weight and was about 145, so that really hurt. I guess it’s the same principle.
I don’t really get the point of censoring your size, as long as you don’t bitch about how big a sample size was in a way that could hurt someone’s feelings.
Post # 16
Mrs Grape, That is so funny to me! It is all relative- I am 6 feet tall and 140 to me is teeny tiny.