(Closed) skip father/daughter dance?

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m seriously considering skipping the father-daughter dance since I’m not particularly close with my dad. I’ve been to a lot of weddings recently where there was no father-daughter dance & it wasn’t weird. If your son is up for dancing I think it would be really cute!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I am skipping it because my father who I am not close to at all keeps flip-flopping abt whether he wil attend my wedding at all since he says that hte only way he will come is if I disinvite my mom and since she is paying for the entire wedding plus the fact that I am closer to her I will never do that. I think its a cute idea to have a mother son dance if your son is up for it, such a special moment for you two to share.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I skipped this tradition as my father didnt raise me it was my single mom. So I  had a special mom and daughter dance instead. She was so  surprised that she became emotional. We were later joined by other mom’s and daughters at the reception. I was happy to share that moment with her.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

 I skipped all of those traditional dances.  we’re just not that sort of family, though I did dance with my husband for 20 minutes or so.  I think the special dances are kinda cute, but generally too long.  You might do the dance with your son for 30 seconds or so and then have everyone else join in because odds are that kind of attention will make him either shy or show-offy.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I’m skipping it. I’m skipping a lot of things. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’m skipping it, I figure Dad walking me down the aisle is enough acknowledgement, he doesn’t need a dance too. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My father passed away so I’m doing it with my uncle to the music I would of chosen for me and my dad.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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rusticglambride:  Sorry to red this, my father passed away too. I think it’s a lovely idea to have the dance with your uncle.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t think I’ve ever seen the father-daughter dance, but I am in the UK. We didn’t do it, and only decided to do our own first couple dance on the evening itself!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

We just did one dance: a bride/groom first dance. We danced for a couple of minutes, and then pulled other people up to join in. I honestly think having a whole host of dances is a bit much, both for the couple, but mainly for guests, who just want to drink/dance themselves and really will not be that fussed about seeing you dance multiple dances.

I danced with my dad plenty of times on the night, and have some great photos; I didn’t need ‘all eyes on us’ for it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Im not skipping it. My dad is paying for most of my wedding and it would be a big slap in the face if i didnt do that for him. He deserves his moment 

Post # 13
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Newbee

I’m skipping it this time around. I did the father/daughter dance at my first wedding, and it was lovely, but it was one of the only standard wedding traditions we did. Fiance is debating a mother/son dance since this will be his first wedding, but he’s not super into traditions either, and he’s mid-forties, so he’s not really feeling it ha. I think we’ll do something to honor our parents, but not dance-wise.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m skipping it as well. My dad was less than enthused when I told him about my engagement and I will bet my life that although I call him regularly to check in he doesnt even know my FI’s last name- that’s how disinterested he is in my life and our relationship in general. He hasn’t offered to help out financially either despite being well off so I’m not going out of my way to do any of the father-daughter stuff.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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lrk1203:  I’m very close to my dad but I knew I’d be sick of people staring at me by the time the father/daughter dance happened so we did a “parent/child” dance. We had a lot of kids at the wedding (though it would work with adults with their parents too I suppose). We had the emcee invite parents to bring their children to the dance floor to join us. It was a good way to get the party going too. Once our song was over they music just kept going and people kept dancing. 

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