Post # 31
Daisy_Mae: We could do it that way, but I feel that it would be more rude to impose phototime with those who are in the middle of eating their meal? Also, by then it will be in the hall and photos wouldn’t be as nice as they would be after the ceremony.
pinkdaisy12: lol this is certainly my concern… but we will be doing a first look and we both only have small immediate families.. so I can’t really see why this would be any different than those couples who take photos in betweent the ceremony and the reception. I have a 220 guest list.. probably only say 175 coming.. For one photo I am thinking of having my uncle, his wife, her 5 daughters and their bfs and then his 3 kids and their dates.. So basically one photo would have 16 people in it.. Then in another example I am thinking my other uncle with all of their kids & dates so that photo would have 8 people in it… and so on… Plus, I know not everyone would stick around (re: parents friends for example) for photos.. So I don’t know if it would really take that long.. But then again, it depends on how well it is organized for sure!
Post # 32
MissHockey: When I read your message, I thought it sounded like a cutre idea, but from the comments it may not be great in practice. I know when you get an idea in your head on how you see things happening, it’s hard to let it go, but if it were me I’d be inclined to follow the advice of a professional photographer and people who have been in the photo line. I didn’t do a receiving line either, we served each table the cheese course as a way to say hi and thanks for coming, much to the horror of the in-laws!
Post # 33
Yeah- that is going to take like 4 hours. Just do table visits at the reception. Our photographer did the traditional photos of every table and we tried to sneek in as many as possible. I’ve heard of people trying to run around to take a photo with every table as fast as possible to the theme of Mission Impossible (they try to get to the whole room by the end of the song). I think that would be fun (for the guests too) and we thought about doing it- but I scared I would trip and fall doing it because I’m a clutz. If you really feel it is necessary to something at the ceremony you can do back into the ceremony space after and dismiss the rows with a hug- though it might be a lot with that many guests. We just did table visits. We wanted to do a receiving line, and only had 100 guests, but our wedding coordinator for our ceremony strongly advised us not to because it would take too long.
Post # 34
I went to a wedding that did this and it really didn’t work out. The bride was a family friend and mentioned a few weeks later that it was her only wedding regret. She had about 150-175 guests and it took forever. It took a long time for the photographer to get everyone positioned, sometimes guests would see other guests across the room that they recognized and would quickly say hi and wave and stuff which would delay the photos, and everyone still wanted to talk with the bride and groom once the picture was taken or even before the picture was taken (which further delayed the pictures). It didn’t really affect me, because I just skipped seeing the bride and groom – I didn’t want to wait to see them and thought it was kind of OTT and wasted a lot of people’s time. I just think it’s something that isn’t easy to execute. If you want it done quickly then you have to sacrifice quality (both picture quality and quality of time with your guests) and if you do it right then you sacrifice time and can leave guests very bored/annoyed.
I know that it sounds like a nice idea in theory, but now that I’ve had the experience of working with a photographer to do formal photos and family pictures at my wedding this past summer, I definitely don’t think it’s the best idea. It takes a long time to get people positioned and make sure everyone is smiling, looking at the camera, not distracted, etc. Keep in mind that “Aunt Betty” may want to talk a lot after waiting around for a long time to see you and isn’t thinking about your timeline or that her 5 minutes of post-wedding chat will affect the rest of the wedding day. Obviously a few extra minutes of talking isn’t going to break your timeline, but trust me, there will be a bunch of “Aunt Bettys” and all those quick chats will add up.
This summer I went to a wedding where the photographer took a picture of the bride and groom with each table in between courses of food and I think that was a great idea. They were going to visit the tables anyways and it didn’t inconvenience anyone or force us to wait in line to see them and get a picture with them. It was quicker too, because it made sure people were getting their pictures taken in larger groups. Once she got the pictures back, the bride put them on Facebook so that we could all see our pictures. I like having a picture from the wedding with our table, because we kind of ‘bonded’ over the course of the reception aha.
Post # 35
MissHockey: I disagree. You’ve made up your mind because you are very defensive about this choice, when almost everyone in the thread has responded NOT to do it. You’re not saying, “Thanks for the info!” etc.
At least admit you’re doing it for yourself and your “wedding album”, not for your guests. When I go to a wedding, I’m thinking about celebrating their union and then having a good time – not “OH MY GOD WHEN DO I GET A PIC W/ THE BRIDE AND GROOM!?!?”
Post # 36
So, we’re on page 3 of responses and out of all of those, 1 maybe 2 people have said “yeah, that might work.” Everyone else has said “sounds awful, don’t do it” or “been there, hated it, don’t do it.” But you’re still going to do it. So… ok, have fun. Don’t say nobody tried to warn you.
Post # 37
Standing in line waiting to take a picture reminds me of renewing my driver’s license at the DMV, not a feeling I’d like to reproduce at a wedding. You, of course, can do whatever you like, and maybe your guests will enjoy it.
Post # 38
SaraJeanQ: You know what, we will just have to agree to disagree because I haven’t made up my mind yet…I am waiting to hear from those who have been at weddings and seen this done before. So please do not tell me what I have done and I don’t appreciate you being snobby and making comments that it is obvious I am not thinking about my guests. It is an idea that I have not planned to do yet and I am looking for feedback mostly from those who have experienced this before. The feedback that you provided me was obviously tainted with your whole opinion of that “worst wedding ever” wedding so I can’t really take it seriously. And an FYI I am leaning towards not doing it, as I have now read from a few other people that have been to a wedding like it and it didn’t work out. So I appreciate you taking the time to share your story with me but I am a grown woman who will make up her own mind. We are just going in circles here so let’s just leave it at that, have a nice day! <br /><br />
sugarpea: I apreciate you taking the time to share that with me! I really do not want to regret this and I really do not want to make my guests super uncomfortable! I think the idea of taking photos with each table is really cute, I am definately going to consider going that route! Thank you!
Daisy_Mae: I understand that a lot of people are going to say its a bad idea, but I was hoping to get feedback from those who have experienced it! I have now, and by reading their responses I can see that it wasn’t pleasureable for the bride/groom or the guests. So I am certainly leaning towards not doing this. I don’t really appreciate you, a complete stranger, telling me that I am going to do something. I have not fully made up my mind yet, but as stated above I am likely not going to do it. Thank you for input.
Post # 39
molokoa: haha, yeah I guess it could feel like that. I guess I didn’t really think of how much others would see this as being impolite and rude to my guests… The idea really did come from good meaning I swear! My guests really are the most important thing to me! Thank you for taking the time to give me an anology and a better understanding from a guests point of view!
Post # 40
I think you’re not getting a lot of feedback from people who have experienced it because most people can figure out that it’s a bad idea when it’s still in the idea stage, for all the reasons contained in this thread.
Post # 41
MissHockey: I think it is a good idea in theory but would probably take a long time. Mainly because people will still want to give you a hug, say congratulations and such like they would in a regular recieving line, so you’d be adding the photo on to that time. I’d be very shocked if all of your guests just came up, posed for a picture and walked away.