Post # 1
we are having a pretty traditional wedding for the most part; outdoor ceremony, indoor reception, bridal party, 100 guests, dances with our parents, etc. However we aren’t doing the garter or bouquet toss and I wasn’t going to bother with old, new, borrowed, blue. No one has blinked an eye about skipping the tosses but Everyone is making a big deal about what blue I’m wearing, etc.
Are most people still doing this? Am I going to regret it later on? I’m sentimental in that I’m going to wear something to remember my late grandmother but the rest just feels cliche and unecessay. What do you all think?
Post # 2
I’m not. I get it’s tradition but I find it a little cheesy.
Post # 3
I didn’t do it and it had no impact on my wedding whatsoever (surprise surprise!) and the day was still amazing 😉 No regrets!
Post # 4
I didn’t do it; we’ve been happily married almost 40 years, so I don’t think it has anything to do with luck/superstition.
My daughters didn’t do it, either. They’ve each been in a couple of bridal parties, and those brides didn’t do it.
Post # 5
marryingmichael : I’m doing it because my dress is new, and my old,/borrowed/blue is my grandmother’s aquamarine ring that I’m borrowing from my cousin (she inherited it). So it wasn’t much extra effort, but it has a tremendous amount of sentimental value for me.
Post # 6
marryingmichael : It’s just something fun. If it’s not fun to you, skip it. nbd.
Post # 7
marryingmichael : I’m doing this for fun, and the last part of the rhymd after blue is “sixpence in the shoe.” Most people forget that part. xoxo
Post # 8
marryingmichael : I skipped it. I did have something old/borrowed (my grandmother/aunt’s dress) and new (shoes, veil), but I didn’t have anything blue until my going away (undies). I answered other because I don’t think that really counts. I didn’t miss it, and no one else seemed to either. I wouldn’t stress about skipping it.
Post # 9
Jeez, it’s really neither a LAW, nor does it require a “Yea” or “Nay”, nor does anyone have to be concerned about regrets.
It’s JUST A CUSTOM. Do or not do, NO BIGGIE.
Post # 10
I’m not bothering with any wedding tradition that I didn’t understand from the get go (i.e. I had to ask someone what it is or I understand what it is, but it has no meaning for me). So pretty much everything’s out except the actual ceremony and dinner after. Food has meaning to me.
Post # 11
2XMOB : Sure, the first 40 years have been great, but what if it really kicks in for the back 40? LOL.
I think it’s a lovely tradition, but I’m not forcing it. If I find something to incorporate, I’ll do it, but I’m not going to focus on it. I have so many other things I’m juggling!
Post # 12
I honestly tried to lol. Mostly to please my MIL bc she’s big on traditions, in the end I only had “something blue” and “new” but as for “old” and “borrowed” nope. It was a cute idea though, but with the whirlwind of everything else going on, that was the last thing on my mind
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
No one has asked me about the something old, borrowed, new, blue tradition. I did think about it at first, but I decided I don’t want to bother trying to find these things, especially if no one cares or has offered to help. If you do have family members/guests who want to help you gather all 4, then I’d say go for it!
Post # 14
I just had old, new and blue. I think most people do it just for kicks, really. I’d have worn old and new no matter what, obviously the dress is new and my necklace was my grandmother’s. Blue would have also technically happened anyway – I have an aquamarine ring. However my mom stuck a blue feather in my headpiece as well (under all the other ones) because she wanted to, and what do I care? It really doesn’t take much, I guess, but I didn’t bother borrowing anything as I’m practical and I didn’t need to.