Post # 1
I don’t really care for speeches all that much, everyone is already going to see my Fiance and I making our vows to one another at the ceremony and maybe a reading…do there really need to be any more speeches after that? Is it odd to skip speeches?
Post # 3
Maybe move them to the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 4
@lovelyduckie: Have you asked your Maid/Matron of Honor and BestMan? I was Maid/Matron of Honor once and I was so excited to tell the world how much I loved my sister, what she meant to me and how much I loved her new husband as well as giving a short blessing. I took less then 4 minutes to say all of my things and let the Best Man say his.
There are little tip sheets you can give to them to help encourage them to keep it short – you could say “hey I found this while I was doing some planning stuff and thought maybe it would be helpful?”
Post # 5
We are not doing speeches. My mom is giving a 1 minute toast…. that is it. It is your wedding… do what you want.
Post # 6
I voted that I don’t care either way, but let me quantify that with a very important point.
If you just happen to have really charismatic, funny and entertaining people, who KNOW how to speak well in front of a crowd…then the speeches can really make the night.
Unfortunately, most people do not fall into this category, and the best man thinks he’s The Toastmaster, and after about seven minutes of prattling on about summer camp, ends it on some awkward insinuation of tawdry behavior at the bachelor party and let the evening deflate like a cheap whoopie cushion…OR worse, the Maid/Matron of Honor gets up, take the mic, instantly starts crying so we’re forced to endure a four minute impression of Katherine Hepburn in her later years, interspersed with sniffing and hiccups and finally crescendos with a very weak and off key bar of Wing Beneath My Wings…where we as a group look at each other and think…”Wow…that got wierd”
So I can take it or leave it, unless it sucks…and then I’ll be heading to the bar for another drink too
Post # 7
Nope. I’m not a mushy person and tend to get uncomfortable when the emotions start flowing (I have no idea how I’m going to get through this vow ordeal) so there will be no speeches at mine. Do what you want girl!
Post # 8
While I agree that you are welcome to not have speeches, double-check with your respective parents and honor attendents – they may have something already planned. Perhaps they can say a few words at the Rehearsal Dinner, or cut it down to a few sentences.
Post # 9
At our wedding the Bridesmaid or Best Man gave a speech and at the rehearsal dinner my Father-In-Law gave a speech. It all depends on the crowd. If they are good at talking, then let them do it!
Post # 10
I voted I didn’t care either way. It is your wedding! I don’t think people will miss speeches. Other than a quick thank you, I think you’re good to go without speeches.
Post # 11
We didn’t have “speeches” per se at our reception last year. But in order to facilitate the serving of dinner, dessert, and so on, we asked a close friend to prepare a little speech for the champagne toast. He wisely kept it short (less than 3 minutes total), sweet, and concluded with “dinner is served!” and further information about dinner/dessert.
Its the long, drawn out speeches, full of inside jokes between the couple and their close friends that kind of irk me. It’s not funny if only 3 other people are laughing. Or the MOH’s speech which usually ends up being more about her than the bride. I’ve heard some good ones in the past, but more often than not, they are painful to sit through.
Oh, and for the love of all that is good in this world, DO NOT have 4 long-winded people give speeches one right after the other. those 30 minutes will bore everyone to death. If you must have multiple speeches, please split them up a bit and give guests time to recover from the coma.
Post # 12
Speeches are my favourite part of a wedding. I love hearing peoples stories and they always make me tear up! So I would miss it…
Post # 13
I don’t think that it’s weird to skip the majority of speeches (parents, bridal party, etc.), but I do think that it’s important that both yourself and your spouse take a minute or two to address the group and thank them for coming and sharing in your special day. I think it would be strange to go to a dinner or event of any kind, not just a wedding, and not have the host acknowledge the guests. After that I say it’s your wedding, make it your own 🙂
Post # 15
Honestly, out of all the weddings I’ve attended, I don’t think there was a single speech that made me go “WOW” and start crying from the emotion or laugh hysterically. However, what I do recall is a lot of people pretending to be interested or, worse, people getting up to get drinks/use the restrooms/play with their phones/whispering.
We didn’t have speeches because honestly, no one that would’ve been in a position to give a speech would have been any good and I would rather not have people act in a way that will offend me or them.
Post # 16
If your people are great speechmakers, have them make a TWO MINUTES NO LONGER toast, and people will remember it forever as the awesome and funny right to the point speech that your awesome MOH/BM made. Any longer than 2 minutes and most people squirm, unless they know you well and/or the toaster is the funniest person alive (most aren’t).