(Closed) Sleep Overs

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is is okay for you Fiance to sleepover a friends house whose roomates are single and other gender
    YES : (64 votes)
    60 %
    NO : (42 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it’s fine and appropriate.  Why don’t you just go over there too and meet the guy?  Might make you feel better 🙂

    Post # 4
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Totally, 100% fine.

    Post # 6
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    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @oli212:  i agree with ms.goodearth.  if you meet him, it will make you feel better.

    Post # 7
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    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @oli212:  I don’t think you need to come right out and say “I want to meet him” but what about asking if you can come and hang out with them at her bff’s house sometime?  Also, at that age, I think it’s pretty normal.  I live far from most of my close friends, but I know they all sleep over at each other’s places a lot.

    Post # 8
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think this is a total non-issue.  

    Post # 9
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    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @oli212

    I kinda see your point about sleep overs at that age.

    It may not be “normal” but its not absurd either…

    I’m glad you trust her but you seem concerned and maybe you should be.

    How often is this happening?

    Post # 10
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    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think it’s a non-issue, but you can ask to meet him if you want. I slept over at my BFF’s house until I got married. Not often, but sometimes you stay up late watching movies and having some wine, and don’t feel like bothering to go home.

    Post # 11
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    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @oli212

    You probably also don’t want to “talk” to her about your concerns because you dont want to appear insecure or like you dont trust her, right?

    And you probably feel akward trying to accidentally meet him or ask to meet him or ask to hang out with them because you probably feel like your invading personal time with her and her BFF…?

    Post # 14
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    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t see anything wrong with it since its her friends roommate, now if this were your Fiance friend that was a male I would say NO WAY! 🙂

    Post # 15
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @oli212:  i just dont like the idea of a single male who i dont know in that house. (makes me VERY uncomfotable).

    What are you afraid will happen?

    Post # 16
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    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @oli212

    Believe it or not I totally get where your coming from.

    My SO would react exactly like you are, and I get it.

    Probably based on both of our trust issues from previous relationships, even if you DO trust the person you’re with there is always that “.01% of you never know”

    I really don’t think you have any reason to be concerned.

    I know it would be an ackward conversation to have with her because you dont want to come off untrusting or insecure but maybe you need to express your concerns to her.

    Not to get her to stop doing it or anything, but just to get her to give you the reassurance that you need that you have no reason to be uncomfortable and maybe then she will suggest that you meet mysterious male roomate and arrange for that to happen.

    Hopefully you have nothing to worry about, but since you are concerned the only solution that will bring you any closure or comfort is to talk it out.

    Good luck with everything!

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