(Closed) Sleep Training: can’t let her cry it out very long but huge progress

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What did you do to get baby to sleep in crib after family bed?
    cry it out (describe below) : (6 votes)
    67 %
    waited until after 1 year old + to move baby (describe below) : (1 votes)
    11 %
    other (describe below) : (2 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 4
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m not a fan of CIO at all but I am not against what you have done.  I have a bigger issue with those who let their kids cry for longer periods of time.   I would start with what you are doing now and then as she gets older, she will get better and better.

    Post # 5
    423 posts
    Helper bee

    Kayla was a really good sleep when she was little and we are still struggling with sleeping through the night, but we did a modified version of cry it out at around 3.5-4 months.  When I put her down at naptime and bedtime, we would cuddle and rock her and sing a little bit and I put her down awake.  At first, we let her cry for no more than 10 minutes (as long as it was just a little fussy crying NOT screaming crying) and sometimes less and we would go pat on her butt or try to calm her down without picking her up.  She also doenst usually get the pacifier or any white noise or anything because I wanted her to learn how to fall asleep on her own.  Now that she is almost 7 months old she falls asleep for naps and nighttime with little to no crying at all…sometimes she just talks to herself for a few minutes and then she’s out.  I have a sleep book that I really liked in PDF format that we followed if you want me to email it to you!  She still isn’t sleeping through the night but she falls asleep really easily after I feed her the one time in the middle of the night and she sleeps in her crib in her own room. πŸ™‚  I think you seem to be doing the right thing for your family!

    Post # 6
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m curious, what does white noise mean?  I dont think I have ever heard of that

    Post # 7
    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I am still a huge fan of the old-school Ferber Method because it WORKS. Forever if you can follow through. I started out at about 5-6 months old, when they’re ready and able to sleep through the night. Oh, and they were exclusively breastfed too.

    It didn’t take more than 3 nights total and neither one cried more than a half hour each of those nights. I was consistent with the time increments (5 min. 10 etc.) and this is very key: do NOT pick up or feed. This will ruin everything. If they are rewarded with that kind of attention, you have lost the battle already. My babies got a little back rub and soothing words. That’s it.

    If you do not do not train your baby to sleep now, you will have a four year old in your bed before you know it and your sleep and intimacy with your husband will suffer. Men do NOT find toddlers an inducement to sexy time. But maybe that’s okay with you if you only want one baby:)


    be strong now and you will not regret it. I promise:)

    Post # 9
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Didn’t realize we did the Ferber method, but this is exactly what I did with DS… He went into his bed at 3 mths and it took less than a week to have him going down w/o tears and self-soothing himself back to sleep in the middle of the night. I wasn’t breastfeeding by then so he didn’t need a middle of the night feeding or anything like that. The first night took the longest, but every 10 minutes or so I’d go in and pat his back and ssssshhhhhhhhhhh… him. =)

    This worked great until he became 18/24mths and we had a 1 bedroom… then he’d wake up and could see me in bed and well.. he ended up with us. He was always fine sleeping in his own bed as long as we were still up though so it was easily rectified once he got his “big boy” bed.

    Keep up the good work, and just know that security in being able to fall asleep goes so much further than just bed & nap time.. that security will help as she’s left with a sitter, or going to school in the years to come.

    *appluads you*

    Post # 11
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Our 15 month old is still in bed with us… but she no longer needs the boob to fall asleep.  She can do it on her own!

    For us, a true CIO just wasn’t going to work.  And Ferber to me seems like an intermittant reward system which is designed to reinforce behaviors.  (But what you are doing is definitely not Ferber 808, because you are picking her up and soothing her).

    I’m so glad your method is working for you, though.  If we let our little one cry, she cries to the point of throwing up… Just wasn’t going to happen.  So we did a modified version in our bed.  We’ll probably transition her when we’re matched with our 2nd baby but before baby comes home πŸ™‚

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