We are just in the middle of sleep training our LO right now and Im fairly happy with how things are going. I will say that in the beginning I was very against CIO and wanted to avoid it at all costs…but our baby being well…our baby 😉 there was just no avoiding crying (shes a crier)
1) we ended up doing straight up old fashoned CIO after hiring a sleep consultant and we had lengthly discussions on what was going to happen.I was still hesitant the day we started but I was also at my wits end and knew we had to at least try. DD has had EPIC long multiple hour cry sessions since shes been born so I thought “here we go” and theres no way she would fall in the “typical” range of what they say (expect 45-60 minutes the first night). Well much to my surprise she started crying and we put on the timer and she only cried for 25 minutes and she was out like a light! She woke up a few times that night during the times she normally would (mostly for food) and she cried for about 30-45 min at one point but got herself back to sleep. Each day got better and better and by the third night it was like 5-10 minutes of crying…sometimes just fussing.
2) she was about 4.5 months when we started…she will be 5 months next week.
3) funny enough she JUST started rolling yesterday!! so we;re dealing with that now….when we started no..and she sleep on her back/side, but now that shes rolling shes completely on her tummy within 2 min of being in the crib and she actually sleeps longer now!
4) we did…. but in reality she didnt tell us (mostly) anything we didnt already know just the reassurance this is what she and us need!
I will give you some tips tho….. the #1 thing you need to know (which is obvious) but true is BE CONSISTANT….the minute you waiver or break the worse it will make it because then the baby knows (for ex: “all I have to do to get mommy in the room is cry harder for longer”)
I was shocked because I really did think it would be worse….she normally cries hard like HARD to point of loosing breath and she never did that…. I was also shocked at the length of time. I never thought she would self soothe in 25 minutes?? are you kidding. GIVE IT A CHANCE whatever method your doing….(I dont know exactly what extinction method is).
The one thing the consultant said is that you have to remember the baby really is fine, they’re just PISSED because your supposed to be in there rocking them to sleep or whatever.
#2 have a good bedtime routine but keep it short (some people drag it out but babies loose interest and the ability to connect the dots its bedtime after a half hour….) The one thing she explained in detail was we needed to feed her BEFORE the rest of bedtime routine…i thought well NO… the later I feed her the longer she will last? Nope… The closer you feed the baby before you put them down …means they will be trying to digest the food while trying to get to sleep. So while their bodies are trying to shut down to get rest, everything else just kicked into high gear to digest the turkey dinner sized bottle you just gave them (think about how you feel after your stuffed…and try to go to bed right away…not great), make sense?? It basically makes them MORE restless and can wake them up, So Feed the baby 45 min before your putting them in the crib. THEN do bath, jammies, story etc whatever you do…. so they have time to start digesting.
#3 Early bedtime…. 4-5 month olds should be in the crib by 8pm (with the expectation of being awake at 7am) The consultant said they should/can easily be sleeping for 11 hours (as long as they are over 13lbs) I thought there was NO WAY my baby who had been up until now awake for 2 feeds a night would go all night with no food!!!!!
Well sure enough after the first night (she woke up and cried for a half hour at those times) she ended up going back to sleep just fine and by the next night she didnt even wake up fir the first one…. and by the third night she slept through…. I knew she was definatly waking out of habit for the first because it didnt matter what time we fed her (8pm or 10pm) she would wake at the same time.
**Cutting out night feedings/pushng through is something you will have to judge with your own baby! I dont know if they are having them or not…. but I personally knew in my gut she didnt really need them anymore.
#4 in regards to bedtime routine she recommended DH would be the one to do the last part of bedtime routine and put her down! Babies will cry longer/harder for mommy! You can share it once training is over but during that time get him to do it!
#5 no diaper changes at night unless poopy. I generally put the next size up on DD cause it does technically fit…but i figure better to have more coverage just in case.
I can honestly say that since training her, she is like a diff baby. She isnt cranky anymore, shes so happy…shes just a delight (not that she wasnt but you know what I mean). She smiles when she see’s me coming for her…
she still fusses and cries a little when we put her down but thats just part of her soothing technique! Its been one full week and I wish we had done this sooner