Post # 1
I have always had a super high, man-like sex drive. Before I met Fiance, I would take care of myself at least once a day, if not more. Since Fiance and I have been together, I no longer pleasure myself. However, I want sex far more than I actually get it. We have sex about 1-2 times a week. I would enjoy having it 4 or 5.
For the past year, I’ve been having orgasms in my sleep. I’m assuming this is becuase I’m no longer pleasuring myself daily, and I’m not getting near that much sex. I’ll be having a “dirty” dream and suddenly, it happens. You might be thinking, “What are you complaining about?!” It seems fun. But, it’s not. These orgasms are so intense that they are painful. I am also embarrassed because I am afraid I will end up having to spend the night at someone’s house or something and they’ll hear me having one. Fiance says he’s never heard me doing it because he sleeps so hard, but I know I make a lot of noise when this happens. At the very least, I wake myself up.
I am curious if anyone else has had this happen to them? Or, am I just weird?
Post # 3
Yeah, that happens to me sometimes. I think it’s pretty normal.
Why don’t you masterbate any more?
Post # 4
Never had one but I think DH has something similar to sexsomnia. It’s never actually progressed to sex, but there have been times where he’s gotten very handsy when he’s been asleep; if I wanted to have sex with him I probably could (whether he would wake up or not, I’m not sure!). I’ve gotten slightly turned on in my sleep, but that’s it.
Post # 5
I am just so busy during the day and at night I don’t really have any privacy. I don’t really think about it or realize how horny I am. Then, when I go to sleep my body takes matters into it’s own hands, lol!
I’ve recently heard about sexsomnia, and I’m so surprised I haven’t made any moves on FI! Lol!
Post # 6
I have them also sometimes but not terribly often and they are never painful although generally intense. I generally have a high drive but haven’t really paid attention to the circumstances of when I have these sort of dreams. No advice, just letting you know you are not alone.
Post # 7
Kind of random but I did a lot of study on the subject of “mental” orgasims, where you need no phsyical contact to bring about pleasure. Does this fit your description? or do you actually manually stimulate yourself while you sleep?
I think we can all attest to some arousing dreams 😉
Post # 8
This happens to me all the time! Never painful, though
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say it’s like excrutiating pain, but the pleasure is just so intense that it hurts. If that makes any sense, at all. It might also hurt because my bladder is full normally when this happens.
I don’t know. Fiance has never witnessed me doing this. He sleeps soundly, so I never wake him up. So, I am not sure if I am actually pleasuring myself or what.
Post # 10
This happened to me when I was pregnant, only during pregnancy, though. I attributed it to levels of hormones. TBH, I didn’t mind it lol.
Post # 11
I have them in my sleep 1-2 times a month but they never hurt.
Post # 12
I forgot to mention that for me it doesn’t hurt. I think you need to find a way for some “you time!”
Post # 13
I have them, but never painful.
Post # 14
The thing that would concern me is the “painful” part. I have dreams from which I wake up very turned on, but I’ve never actually had an orgasm so I don’t have much advice. You say that you think these orgasms are a result of not getting as much stimulation as you want/need?
I will say that between DH and I, I have a waaay higher sex drive. I pleasure myself at least once a day, sometimes 2 or 3 times, and still want sex whenever DH does. I prefer to do it in the morning after he leaves for work or in the evening before he gets home, but some days that just doesn’t work and I have to do it, privacy be damned. He just kinda laughs and rolls his eyes when he catches me, or when I wink at him and go into the bedroom for 15 minutes 😛 Sometimes if he’s not horny and I am, he’ll just kiss me or suck on my nipples while I get myself off (tmi?) Would he do that for you so you don’t feel weird masturbating around him?
I guess my advice would be: If you dont want the sleepgasms to continue, and you feel that masturbating helps, I say just do it! 😉
Post # 15
This happens to me fairly often, I’d say at least once a month. And I know what you mean by the almost painful thing…. they are so intense it’s almost painful, but not necessarily in a bad way. Weird….. but kinda fun too 🙂
Post # 16
I’ve had these. Maybe once every few months. I always get really embarrassed because I don’t know if i;m making noises or moving!