Post # 1
argh…my fi is insisting on sleeping in the other room, and not kissing or cuddling me as he has a very bad cold. hes coughing and spluttering and feeling very bad.
its sweet that he doesnt want me to catch it but its driving me a bit mad. id rather risk the cold and have cuddles but hes refusing! the worst thing, is that ive been away for 3 weeks visiting my family in london…so im dying to show him how much ive missed him. (im not crazy,i know hes sick so i get he might not be up for sex…but just sleeping next to him would be lovely)
does anyone else sleep apart if one of you is sick? obviously im enjoying being healthy , other than being incredibly jetlagged
Post # 3
We tried to sleep apart the first time one of us got sick, but neither of us slept and I got sick anyway, so we just sleep together anyway…
Post # 4
We still sleep together. We still kiss to. We don’t make-out or anything but we still kiss.
I figure we spend enough time together when we aren’t sleeping that if someone is going to catch something, it is going to happen whether we sleep together or not.
Post # 5
@newname_99: My SO and I have agreed the chances of us getting what sickness the other person has is inevitable. If is a flu then it is most likely airborn anyway….Just tell him to suck it up and if you get sick then he can give you cuddles to make you feel better 🙂
Post # 6
We still sleep in the same bed but, FI won’t kiss me on the mouth if he’s sick :/
I’m currently nursing the cold he gave me, but it’s worth it to get to sleep beside him 🙂
Like PP, I figure that we’re bound to pass it on to each other anyway…
Post # 7
It depends on how sick we are. DH had food poisoning a few months ago and I slept in a different room the night it was the worst. I had to work in the morning and wouldn’t have been able to sleep with him getting in and out of bed all night. If it’s just a cold then we still sleep together.
Post # 8
@russian_doll: thats my logic! i live with him, we spend time together, its inevitable- if im going to get sick, ill get sick anyway. a peck on the lips to me or a cuddle wont change anything.
hes temporarily got a one metre rule – we can spend loads of time together, just from a distance. i think this wont work at all haha
Post # 9
It depends on how sick we are. I get pretty bad migraines, and cold/flu illness tends to trigger them for me. When you add a regular flu to a killer migraine I don’t want to be touched, breathed on, looked at, I don’t want to hear someone move around or talk etc. So at that point, we do sleep separate. Other then that specific situation, we both prefer snuggles and cuddles when we don’t feel well.
Post # 10
LOL we actually sleep apart quite often, I am a very light sleeper and sometimes prefer the couch. Even if I am not sick, falling asleep watching TV can really help if I’m anxious abotu something.
Post # 11
@newname_99: Well tell him he can stop breathing….and that he can’t touch anything either (unless it gets sprayed with antibacterial)…LOL that’s the only way to stop you getting sick
Post # 12
Chances are if one of us is sick the other will get it… regardless of whether or not we sleep together.. We just say “ah what the heck!”
Post # 13
If one of us is SUPER sick we definitely sleep apart. Once I had strep throat and this raging cough and all nastiness….if we hadn’t slept apart, I would have kept him up all night for several nights in a row with my coughing, tossing, turning, eating cough drops, getting water. Plus, when I’m sick, I kind of WANT to be alone! I feel more comfortable being phlegmy-coughy-gross in private! lol
Once he got a really bad stomach bug and was up every few hours puking, so we slept apart then, too. I still checked on him a lot, though! haha
Post # 15
unless its a matter of wanting to get better sleep alone, or being irritated by coughing etc… sleeping apart to prevent virus transmission is a total waste of time. You’re going to pick it up from common surfaces (phone, remote, doorknobs etc…) anyway.
Post # 16
@russian_doll: ive got to admit, he had a coughing fit then reached for the bread to make toast. i told him he had to wash hands then use anti-bacterial gel on his hands. i know germs get spread when he touches surfaces but touching food is a bit gross. he making me paranoid, i want to spray things that he touches haha. but ive been in the car with him while coughing so i must be exposed already
i have my secret weapon though – TCP – which is an antiseptic liquid. you put it direct on cuts, or can dilute it to gargle with. and if you use it a couple of times the second you get the first signs of a scratchy throat and know youre heading for a cold…it stops it in its tracks. google tells me that bacteria often start in the throat so thats maybe why. unfortunately i wasnt there to tell fi to use it