(Closed) Sleeping naked with children/teenagers

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Babies whatever but 16???!!! That’s some Freudian stuff going on at the very least…. (Aw hell no). 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

just no.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

No. No. No. Hell to the No.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I wouldn’t, like, generally. I mean, if I HAD TO it wouldn’t be a problem as long as it is a baby. But as baby grows into a child, it would feel inappropriate somehow. I am not raised in a home where nudity was as “natural” as in others. I would probably be OK with sleeping bare breasted as long as the baby was breast feeding though.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

That is bordering on incest for me.  It is important to teach children boundaries, not that he is a child anymore.  Tat kid will have some serious mumma issues.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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Innerdonught :  I’ve seen my mum ‘in the flesh’ throughout my whole life, she wasn’t a nudist  or anything Hehe-  but she dressed as she wanted and would get changed into different outfits even if I was there. Earliest memories were sitting on her bed taking to her whilst she tried new clothes on etc. 

I am very uncomfortable with the idea of a mother sleeping naked with a teenager though. I don’t think that is very healthy at all. (Just my view though) 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I sleep topless with my infant who co sleeps for ease of breastfeeding at night but I would never sleep with my 8 year old (or past breastfeeding) without being fully clothed. Yuck.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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northernbird :  I also saw my mother naked all throughout childhood and adulthood. Both my mom and sister had no problem changing in front of me and vice versa. But I think that has much more to do with all of us being female than related. I couldn’t do that with my boys for instance. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Absolutely NOT

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Innerdonught :  Obviously that NZ case is messed up, but answering your general question…

Up to about age 4, nudity around the house was ok. I’d help them get dressed, I washed them in the bath, and I often showered with the bathroom door open and so they saw me (and sometimes DH) nude. Besides being practical, it was a natural way to see the differences between men and women. That gradually tapered off when they reached school age, though for safety reasons I felt I had to watch them in the bath until about age 8 (from memory).

I never sleep nude. Kids were always welcome in bed in the morning until they got sick of it (which was around age 6 I think).

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Um. Pretty sure once they are able to talk the naked time should stop. There is NO way you should sleep naked with your teen. Ugh. 

Eta: I also think there is a huge difference in quick changing or whatever and intentionally spending significant time naked.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have daughters and they occasionally see me getting dressed or out of the shower. It is fleeting and I’m not parading around nude. But I have also never acted like its a big deal. My husband always has gym shorts or similar on so they are not seeing him. I would not sleep nude with any of my children except while breastfeeding an infant- maybe.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Yikes, no thank you! What happens when he wakes up with an involuntarily boner? I mean, let’s not be naive and think that that doesn’t happen at that age! Bleh!! Changing in front your kids is one thing, but I think that sleeping takes it to a whole other level!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My sister’s spouse showers with his 2 oldest kids (from a previous marriage), the oldest being a 7-year-old boy, younger one being a 4-year-old girl. I learned this while sharing a cottage with them for a week this summer. If I heard that about a stranger, I might be wary… But there was honestly no creepy vibe at all regarding the situation. 

That being said, why would a 16-year-old be sleeping in bed with his mother? And if it’s necessary to do so, PJs should ABSOLUTELY be worn. Nakedness is a necessity during a shower – not during sleep.

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