Post # 1
So, this is obviously an extreme case but an interesting topic and wanted to hear what bees thought about nudity and children.
This mother sleeps naked with her 16 year old son… http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3765243/Mother-asks-sleep-naked-16-year-old-son.html
What are your views on being naked around children/teenagers? Do you still let your children in bed for a cuddle?
At what age do you draw the line? Would it be less weird if it was a mother and her daughter as opposed to a son?
Post # 2
Babies whatever but 16???!!! That’s some Freudian stuff going on at the very least…. (Aw hell no).
Post # 4
No. No. No. Hell to the No.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t, like, generally. I mean, if I HAD TO it wouldn’t be a problem as long as it is a baby. But as baby grows into a child, it would feel inappropriate somehow. I am not raised in a home where nudity was as “natural” as in others. I would probably be OK with sleeping bare breasted as long as the baby was breast feeding though.
Post # 6
That is bordering on incest for me. It is important to teach children boundaries, not that he is a child anymore. Tat kid will have some serious mumma issues.
Post # 7
I’ve seen my mum ‘in the flesh’ throughout my whole life, she wasn’t a nudist or anything Hehe- but she dressed as she wanted and would get changed into different outfits even if I was there. Earliest memories were sitting on her bed taking to her whilst she tried new clothes on etc.
I am very uncomfortable with the idea of a mother sleeping naked with a teenager though. I don’t think that is very healthy at all. (Just my view though)
Post # 8
I sleep topless with my infant who co sleeps for ease of breastfeeding at night but I would never sleep with my 8 year old (or past breastfeeding) without being fully clothed. Yuck.
Post # 9
I also saw my mother naked all throughout childhood and adulthood. Both my mom and sister had no problem changing in front of me and vice versa. But I think that has much more to do with all of us being female than related. I couldn’t do that with my boys for instance.
Post # 11
Obviously that NZ case is messed up, but answering your general question…
Up to about age 4, nudity around the house was ok. I’d help them get dressed, I washed them in the bath, and I often showered with the bathroom door open and so they saw me (and sometimes DH) nude. Besides being practical, it was a natural way to see the differences between men and women. That gradually tapered off when they reached school age, though for safety reasons I felt I had to watch them in the bath until about age 8 (from memory).
I never sleep nude. Kids were always welcome in bed in the morning until they got sick of it (which was around age 6 I think).
Post # 12
Um. Pretty sure once they are able to talk the naked time should stop. There is NO way you should sleep naked with your teen. Ugh.
Eta: I also think there is a huge difference in quick changing or whatever and intentionally spending significant time naked.
Post # 13
I have daughters and they occasionally see me getting dressed or out of the shower. It is fleeting and I’m not parading around nude. But I have also never acted like its a big deal. My husband always has gym shorts or similar on so they are not seeing him. I would not sleep nude with any of my children except while breastfeeding an infant- maybe.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Yikes, no thank you! What happens when he wakes up with an involuntarily boner? I mean, let’s not be naive and think that that doesn’t happen at that age! Bleh!! Changing in front your kids is one thing, but I think that sleeping takes it to a whole other level!
Post # 15
My sister’s spouse showers with his 2 oldest kids (from a previous marriage), the oldest being a 7-year-old boy, younger one being a 4-year-old girl. I learned this while sharing a cottage with them for a week this summer. If I heard that about a stranger, I might be wary… But there was honestly no creepy vibe at all regarding the situation.
That being said, why would a 16-year-old be sleeping in bed with his mother? And if it’s necessary to do so, PJs should ABSOLUTELY be worn. Nakedness is a necessity during a shower – not during sleep.