(Closed) Sleeping naked with children/teenagers

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 Innerdonught :  wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong. Definitely f*cking that kid’s mental state right up. I will go as far as predicting a very bleak future for this child – Norman Bates anyone?

My almost 3 year old son has started taking an interest in my body as being different than his and Daddy’s – and it makes me SUPER uncomfortable about crossing lines and I’m never really sure what to do about it or the appropriate way to handle it when he asks to see my body.

So I would totally judge someone that thinks this is ok.

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

Innerdonught :  So I honestly thought this thread was going to be about sleeping naked with older children when they are in the house. As in another bed. In another ROOM. Yeh totally fine.

SAME BED?! Older child? Teenager?!!!! No. No.

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh funny I just read backwards and see that I’m not the first one to think of Norman Bates. That tells you something right there.

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

I cannot believe the teenage boy would be comfortable with that. That just does not seem natural at all. I have teenage boys and they would never ever consider such a thing! One of mine once  walked into my room as I was slipping a t-shirt over a sport bra rushing to get  ready to go to yoga  and he about died of embarrassment LOL . I was fine with it and told him no big deal as it was no different than me having a bathing suit on  and the shirt was already half on  anyway but kids that age are naturally very private. 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  and I was coming in here to post that Anthony Perkins “A boy’s best friend is his mother” still frame…

This reminds me of a Dear Prudence column a while back where a mother was breastfeeding her kids until age 5, and then encouraging them to play with her breasts well into elementary school age. The letter writer felt sick about it as a teenager and was distressed to see her younger sibling growing up with the same treatment. Prudence rightfully called the mother’s behavior out as predatory and sexually abusive, and suggested she anonymously contact their pediatrician (who is obliged to to report possible abuse) and report what was going on. 

I feel so bad for this boy, I hope he can get away from this woman and learn boundaries and appropriate behavior sooner rather than later.

Post # 52
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Busy bee

Isn’t this considered “child abuse” by CPS???

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Oh that is just so gross

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2002

So having raised a boy, I can tell you this all takes care of itself,  one day your giving them their nightly bath and the next, you are banned from the bathroom forever never to see the naked little boy again.  My kids have never seen me naked unless by accident.  They also just reach an age where they don’t want you to see them either !!!  So no normal

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

When I was maybe two or three I showered with either my Mom or Dad. My Dad also slept naked all my life…but we weren’t allowed in my parents bedroom at night…we could stand at the door but that was it. In my humble opinion, as soon as a child is developmentally old enough to intellectually understand the difference between genders…I WANT to say that is about age three….then it’s time to stop being nude.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

I think there’s a huge difference between SEEING a family member naked and sleeping with them while you are both nude. I think if I had to do that with either parent I woud literally vomit. And there’s a good reason! We have an abject reaction to stuff like that because of a biological need to prevent incest. 

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper

As the mother of teenage boys–eewwwww. Just eewwwww. 

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee

majorairhead :  Well, think of it this way. If this is the only thing he knows then to him its normal. 

But man that kid has got to be fed up. No question about it. As others have stated hormones are kicking in and here you have a woman sleeping next to you blurring the lines. Gross.

goldenbrown :  One would think! My god! 

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

VictorianChick :  i think as Olives3 said he should know and feel instinctively it is NOT normal. At a certain age kids – esp boys from my experience with my kids  – demand privacy and are very uncomfortable with the idea of seeing or being seen undressed. And this is long before the teenage years!

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Yes this is highly inappropriate, however some of the posts in here seem to swing in extremes as well. No nudity around a child older than 3? No kids in the bed ever? No breastfeeding unless an infant? I mean those are your choices to make of course, but there’s nothing sexual or inappropriate about any of those scenarios. I think a lot of children in today’s society would benefit from understanding that nudity doesn’t only equate to sex. 

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