Post # 1
So, we broke up a month ago and I was and still reeling from the breakup. I recently stopped crying all the time and was able to do some fun stuff with friends and even got on Tinder for fun.
Yesterday, the ex texted me after more than a month of no contact and asked me to dinner. I was curious and not gonna lie I missed him so I said yes and one thing led to another. Now I feel so stupid, like all the progress I made is gone. I really am dumb bees!!
Post # 2
We all make mistakes. Dont beat yourself up
The only thing to do is pull yourself back up and don’t make a repeat mistake
Post # 3
roses89 : you aren’t dumb you are human it’s okay. Just try to stay away from him and learn from the experiences. It’s going to be okay. It’s the summer lots of fun things to do to take your mind off of it.
Post # 4
roses89 : ps get back on Tinder. I met my future husband on there, girl!!
Post # 5
roses89 : I’ve slept with every ex I have at least once post-breakup. It happens. Don’t beat yourself up over it!
Post # 6
block him on your phone and all social media
Post # 7
PS Hope it was a yummy meal!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris
Relapsing is pretty common. If you aren’t getting back together it’s best to go back to the no contact.
Post # 9
Yep, you are human, and if you still have feelings for him then it’s difficult not to go back there.
Just don’t get your hopes up that it’s going to lead to reconciliation. Get back out there, have fun and don’t contact him again.
Post # 10
You’re not stupid, don’t think like that!
Don’t contact him and go out and meet other people. If he wants to spend time with you he needs to work for it.
If he asks to hang out again, I would reply kindly, “last time was fun, but that’s not what I’m looking for. You ended our relationship, and that’s fine. I’m in the process of moving on, so if a hookup is what you’re looking for, then I’m sorry, Im not going to be that girl for you.”
Don’t ever tell him you felt stupid.
Post # 11
roses89 : Sweetie, DO NOT beat yourself up about this, it happens all the time. Just learn from it and move on.
Post # 12
we’ve all been there, don’t feel dumb! the best thing to do is to take it for what it was, and don’t let your mind wander into the what-if territory. if you’re tough enough to do it, block his number and go no contact. you will heal faster.
Post # 13
Totally slept with my ex shortly after breaking up. Hate sex can be hot. Don’t beat yourself up, take it as a backslide and start again.
Post # 14
roses89 : I think it’s kind of a normal thing for ex’s to hook up again a month of so after a break up. It’s usally a mistake, and sometimes is apart of the closure process. Don’t beat yourself up too much bee, we’ve all been there. I just wouldn’t do it again.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone for the support. I was definitely struggling and had finally made a little bit of progress but now I feel like Im back to square 1. Chest is hurting again, constantly holding back tears, checking my phone repeatedly etc. And i put myself back in this situation for no reason. Will definitely try to pick myself up again.