(Closed) slight spin off- how many people are from his side/ ur side

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re looking at about 180 people…120 from his side, 60 from mine.

Post # 4
13903 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

206 total invitees; 106 mine, 100 his

Post # 5
11164 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

We are pretty even which surprised me. With 150 people invited 80 are from his side including his friends and 70 are from mine including my friends.

Post # 6
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We’re almost dead even!  I’m inviting more friends than he is but he has a bigger extended family.

Post # 7
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Inviting 190.

140 from my side, and 50 from his.

His side is strictly family only, while my side includes a lot of my parents friends, people from work, etc.

Post # 8
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We’re about even, but comparitively mine’s comprised of more family and his is more friends.

Post # 9
7338 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are sooo not even! My family and I are in shambles so I think I’m going to have my mom and my dad there only. (This is a for sure, the rest I don’t even know if I’m going to invite them or not) I have alot of friends that are coming though. Fiance has a very good relationship with all of his family so he’s got more coming on his side.

Post # 10
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

About 2/3 my side, 1/3 his side. 

I have a bigger family plus my parents are helping us out so they got to invite more people.

Post # 11
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

About 100 people are invited and all are mine… there’s about 10 that are mutual friends of ours, but his family is not invited due to all the drama and past issues. But then again, we haven’t talked to his family in a very long time.

Post # 12
4346 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As of right now, I’m at 74, and hes at 108. I have another 26 on a B-list, but only because I’m not sure if we will hit the venue’s minimum. I wouldn’t be upset if the B-list couldn’t come, but it would be nice if they were there. He has not made a B-list, but I’m sure he could double his guest list easily if I gave him the oppertunity. He is much more social than me, and I really only want to invite friends I envision in my life in 10 years, whereas I think he has a different rule of thumb for deciding who he wants to come. Its not a big deal for us because we are right around the total number of guests we want to be at, and we’ve figured out who the most important people are. I *think* Future Mother-In-Law and my parents have a lotof people missing that they would want to come, but they’re aware that its not their wedding so they aren’t pushing for more guests. I think if we come up short of the minimum after RSVPs they will have a lot of suggestions.

Post # 13
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not sure of the exact numbers, but I know there are a lot more from my side just because my stepmom comes from a huuuuge family, and his family is very small.

Post # 14
9829 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

we haven’t started guest list yet, but most will be from his side – his dad is one of SEVEN (well six, his brother recently passed) and most of them have children/step children, and they all have boyfriends/girlfriends/SOs, and his mum is one of FIVE and most of them have children, etc etc.

both my parents are the youngest of four children, with only one sibling having children – and those siblings each had two children, on my dad’s side his sister had two girls, and each of those girls is married with children, and on my mum’s side are two boys – both younger than me and single. so there will be a big difference in our numbers, and i am sadly not as close with many friends as i used to be, and with the size of his family and mine it could be up to 100 WITHOUT any friends besides those in the bridal party!

would we have to invite the girlfriends/boyfriends of my FI’s cousins (cousins who he sees only a couple times a year), considering how large the wedding will have to be anyway, and over here all the venues i have looked at the cost of a reception would be about $120AU per head! and that would only increase by the time we get married, and my parents will be contributing to the wedding, his parents said they would happily pay for half, “money is no object” his mum said, but i do want to see if we can pay for stuff ourselves too!

Post # 15
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

His family = 48  only immediate family members & spouses, aunts & uncles, grown neices & nephews.  Select cousins & their spouses.

My family = 30  my entire very small family, including some of the “relatives” who are really just good friends of the family (but are still very close)


and the rest are “our” friends, we don’t differentiate.



Post # 16
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Approx 140 will be invited. 100 for my side, 40 for FI’s side. And even then we are sure a lot of them won’t come (From FI’s side, the wedding is in my hometown where 90% of my guest list lives) even though the wedding is only 2 hours away from where the majority of them live.

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