(Closed) Slightly annoyed by my friend's registry stalking.

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was a hardcore registry stalker.  I would never have mentioned anything to the person who gave me the gift about it though!

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really don’t understand why you are upset about this. She probably wants to thank people who bought gifts before the wedding to cut down on the after wedding stress of thank yous. It’s much easier to follow as you go along then try and figure it all out after the fact.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

I agree that that is frustrating! I would also be quite offended at her comments concerning the cutlery as well as expecting a cash gift! Weddings should be about the commitment you are making to your partner, not about how many gifts and how much money is given to you.

My cousin did a great thing with her registry. She stalked it, but only to top it up if most of the less expensive items had been purchased. She didnt want anyone to feel pressured to have to buy the Kitchenaid Mixer or Pot Set that was left especially if it wasnt in the guests budget. If the items costing lets say up to $100 had all been purchased, she went to reselect some additional items to give more options to guests. We all really liked it! Though of course she didnt explain that until long after the wedding just as an advice piece to me. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww, cut her some slack. I was incredibly excited about everything that was purchased off my registry. I wasn’t trying to be gift-grabby, I just really like kitchenware! 

As for the baby thing….yeah, you’ve gotta let that go! People definitely have the right to tell others what the sex of their own baby is! 🙂

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think its pretty rude for someone to fallow their registry. I know it is tempting but come on. Even if someone were to, at least keep it to yourself that you know who has been buying you what. I myself wouldnt look at my registry. Besides, I have enough on my plate with planning the wedding itself to be getting in my guests business about possible gifts they might be buying us. Its beyond tacky.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

In my opinion the only thing she did “wrong” was to expect the cuttlery from her grandparents. Everything else seems totally normal. When I make a register, I will for sure be “stalking” it to see who bought what – I wouldn’t mention it though I guess. I suspect your friend was just trying to be nice and thank you for your gift. I don’t see why you would be upset about that? As for the baby thing, you really don’t get to make the decisions when it’s someone else’s baby. When it’s your turn, you can keep it a secret if that’s what you wish.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What difference does it make if she thanks you for the gift now or waits until after the wedding? Now, or later, she has to do it. Now, or later, she will find out who bought her what. So let her just do it on her own timeline. Maybe she doesn’t want thank yous to pile up so she can get them out of the way asap. How would it be any less of a tally if she did her looking AFTER the wedding as opposed to befoe? It honestly doesn’t make any sense to me why this is bothering you, or why it would bother anyone.

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