Post # 1
So, Fiance and I aren’t registering. We have a lot of reasons for this. But NONE of those are because we expect cash gifts.
After reading the Bee, I’m worried some people will think that’s what we’re trying to do. We have a message on our wedsite, under the title “Regarding Gifts.” We wrote, “Your love, company, and good wishes are the best gifts we could hope for! No others are necessary.”
Do you think that makes it clear enough? I just don’t want people to think badly of us. I’d rather not tell them straight up that we don’t want any gifts, because I know a lot of people really enjoy picking out something for the bride and groom. But we don’t want them to feel obligated or like we’re being greedy.
Ok, neurotic rant over. Any thoughts you have are welcome.
Post # 3
I feel like that is simple enough. 🙂 But if I were going to your wedding, I would def still bring something.. even if its just a gift card!
Post # 4
I tried what you are doing and it did not work out. People called me and said either I register or they buy me what they want. I also go calls saying it was outright rude of us not to let our guest buy us gifts. I finally caved when some guest bought some very expensive gifts that I would never use. I hate returning things so we registered at Bed Bath and Beyond for inexpensive things that I would use (nothing over $80). We have been recieving gift and one person bought 15 items off our list!! I still feel that them coming and sharing our day is gift enough but in the end I caved. I hope it goes better for you.
Post # 5
We had a little of that. In the end, I did what people used to do – I gave my mom a list of a few things that we could use, and let her send that to anyone who asked. Hilariously enough, the people who were the most pushy about it then proceeded to get us something else entirely.
I also want to be clear that we’re not saying that people can’t give us gifts – just that we don’t expect it, and that they can get us anything they want. It doesn’t bother us that we might get some things that aren’t our style. We already got one of these – my Future Brother-In-Law and his wife gave us a personalized recipe box that is not at all to our taste. But I don’t mind, because it was sweet and thoughtful and shows their care. To me, that’s what it’s all about.
Post # 6
Maybe you could add something like. “If you’d really love to express your joy for us, please make a donation in our name with [your favorite charity]”
Post # 7
Hmmm….what if you made no mention of gifts at all and, if people ask you, tell them what you would have put on the website? I think what you have is coolio, but if I saw that on a website, I would probably call you or your mom and ask what you’d really like/need. You might be setting yourself up for answering a lot of questions.
I can understand not registring and your reasoning behind it…it was probably the worst part (for a variety of reasons) of wedding planning for me.