Post # 1
We are getting married this August and having, essentially a destination wedding. My 3 sisters are my bridesmaids. A while ago I vetoed a bridal shower for several reasons. In lieu of a shower we decided to do a spa day.
My question is — Who should pay for the spa day?
It’s a dilemma because my sisters/BMs are flying out to our wedding and paying for 4 nights lodging/rental cars/etc. However, my fiance and I are as well.
I want to get them something but I was thinking of a $25 or less gift. We are on a super tight budget and keeping all costs to a minimum.
If we are doing a spa day, should I expect them to pay for me? Should I be paying for them? We talked about doing the spa at the destination location but I didn’t know if that changes the financial obligations.
I might be over-thinking this 🙂 What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
It sounds like you may need to have a discussion with you BMs before you head to the salon. If it comes time to pay the bill and you are all looking around at each other, well, that would be interesting.
Maybe suggest something a little more economical if the bill is the issue. You can all do something together.
If you stick with the plan, I’d say whomever suggested the spa was taking on the bill responsibilities.
Post # 4
Yay, date twin!
Anyway =), for my wedding, we’re hitting a spa the day before the wedding and I’ll probably cover at least a portion of a mani-pedi treatment, and once I figure out the total costs, possibly the whole thing — I’m considering the session as part of my gift to them. If you’re already thinking about spending around $25 for a gift anyway, going to the spa could be it. Get them gift certificates to the spa and they can choose their own treatments…that way if they want more done, they know to spend their own money. And you can always just straight out ask what they would be comfortable with…it’s better than assuming they might pay for you since I don’t think previously vetoing a shower necessarily means you can pick another event for them to treat you, ya know? Hope that helps =)!