(Closed) Slightly disappointed with my SO about my birthday

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My birthday isn’t that big of a deal, because I’m not a child. Cheating on me, now that would be a massive huge deal, on my birthday or any other day.

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

First of all, I don’t have any idea what a “power couple” is. Are you famous or something? Like Brad and Angelina?

Second of all, I think your expectations for this birthday were pretty ridiculous. You’re basically saying you’re upset because he didn’t put his work situation on the back burner and 100% pay attention to you all day. What?!

Thirdly, and most importantly, I think the real reason you’re having issues is because you still don’t trust him. And why should you?! Your last 2 birthdays he spent pining over another woman! He took a year to choose to be with you?! What the f#*% is that about? I wouldn’t trust this guy either and I don’t know if I could ever get over our first 2 years “together.” 

Post # 18
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Cheated on me, doesn’t text on birthday, took years to commit but not really, had other girlfriend….

HASHTAG true power couple lol! 

Post # 19
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1277 posts
Bumble bee

I suggest getting a boyfriend on the side, have him take you out for your birthday. Let your SO find out. Then take a year to “get over” your sidepiece. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Peachytalk :  should have ended that with Tru power couple version 2.0

Post # 21
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Helper bee

#relationshipgoals

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Text quantity is only a predictor of relationship health in the first month or two, at most.  For that matter I’m pretty sure DH never texts me on my birthday.  To say what?  Happy Birthday Again?

Also I think your birthday stops being a big deal when you’re no longer looking forward to getting older.  So 21.  Or I guess 35 if you’re really intent on running for president.  Your boyfriend probably didn’t know he was supposed to shower you with text-attention while he was at work.  I certainly wouldn’t.  But then I think being born is really more an accomplishment for my mother than it is for me.  Hope that helps!

PS. I didn’t address the big fat cheating elephant in your post because it wasn’t the point of your post, but if you want to know if your boyfriend is a huge turd for taking a year to get over his chick on the side, create a post addressing that and I’d be happy to weigh in.

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re annoyed that he was working while at work and not texting you?  I can’t even have my phone on me at work (it’s locked up outside the office)…  This is crazy.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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elsa0984 :  oh my god yes. ‘Power couple’ vom 😷

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

Power couple 😂😂

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I seriously can’t get past that it took two years and a whole separate relationship for him to be like “yeah, you’ll do”

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I recommend you get used to this sort of treatment now if you plan to stay with him. I’m sorry but I don’t think it’s going to change if it hasn’t already.

Also, why are you still with him when he pretty obviously sucks?

Post # 28
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Your gut is screaming at you something is wrong. Listen to it. 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly both of you sound like you have issues and should not be in any relationships until you have done some personal growth. Expecting someone to text you all day, whilst at work no less, is unreasonable birthday or not. It is stage 5 clinger alert.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

I have nothing helpful  to add that hasn’t already been said. wow. just wow.

FWIW…. my own bday is the day before xmas and it almost never gets remembered because it is such a busy time of year. Even if I had the most perfect relationship in the history of the universe, I would not expect my dh to text me or communicate regularly throughout the day. This sounds like what a middle schooler would want. Sorry bee, this whole thing sound very immature on both sides.

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